How do I know if I'm in a toxic relationship?
circusmirror123
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Apr 10, 2020
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A toxic relationship is one where being in the relationship isn't making you feel better about yourself or lifting your mood, instead you feel worse and you're stressed out by being in the relationship. Sometimes it's not because the other person is toxic, or that you're toxic, it can just be that the two of you aren't very good for each other. Sometimes a toxic relationship can be fixed, or maybe it just means that you need time to grow as a person. The most important thing in a relationship is that you feel valued and they're helping you grow as a person, not feel worse.
luxvision
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Apr 19, 2020
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Good relationship makes you feel secure, happy, cared for, respected, and free to be yourself.
On the other side of the coin are toxic relationships the ones that make you feel drained, depleted, passive aggressive behavior and sometimes even distraught.Whether you're running a business, working with a partner, leading an organization, or managing a team.
Relationships are important, and a toxic relationship can cost you dearly in time and energy that you could be putting to much better use. Stay true to yourself and your values, listen to your heart, and be strong if you need to extricate yourself from a toxic relationship.
wonderfulShoulder5046
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Apr 22, 2020
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There are many many signs of a toxic relationship but in my opinion it all boils down to this: a toxic relationship will exhibit signs that don't honor the person's dignity. Dignity is the quality of being worthy of honor and respect, and this is what all healthy relationships are about. Whether it be a friendship or romantic relationship, if their actions make you feel disrespected or undervalued constantly, then you have a serious problem. You will likely know something is off, and that when you're around them/afterwards you feel emotionally and mentally drained. Some examples are if If they constantly criticize you, make you feel unsafe in any way, or if there is consistent poor communication. Luckily, toxic relationships can be improved but are often take a lot of work and communication.
peacefulTruth2251
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May 6, 2020
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You know if you are in a toxic relationship if the person your with treats you like trash, doesnt trust you, makes decisions for you and more! You need to know the signs! The person you are with will say things like, " Go change!" or "Your not allowed" or "let me see your phone". If you or someone you know is dealing with a toxic relationship chat to anyone on 7 cups! We are here to help!!! Toxic relationships make you cry and make you feel not loved, everyone needs love from friends, family, and lovers. Dont feel restrained by a toxic relationship!
Anonymous
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May 9, 2020
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It feels bad. All the time.
You fall asleep hollow and you wake up just as bad. You look at other couples doing their happy couple thing and you feel the sting. Why couldn’t that sort of love happen for you? It can, but first you have to clear the path for it to find you.
We all have important needs in relationships. Some of the big ones are connection, validation, appreciation, love, sex, affection. When those needs are mocked or ignored, the emptiness of that unmet need will clamour like an old church bell. If your attempts to talk about what you need end in a fight, a(nother) empty promise, accusations of neediness, insecurity, jealousy or madness you’ll either bury the need or resent that it keeps being overlooked. Either way, it’s toxic.
Every relationship will have its issues. In a toxic relationship, nothing gets worked through because any conflict ends in an argument. There is no trust that the other person will have the capacity to deal with the issue in a way that is safe and preserves the connection. When this happens, needs get buried, and in a relationship, unmet needs will always feed resentment.
These are the few signs that you’re in a toxic relationship.
AmberSW2000
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May 14, 2020
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This can be sort of a hard question to specifically pinpoint down to one specific trait. You have to do a lot of self-reflection upon the other person and whether the way they treat you, is fair, respectful and up to your standards. I believe it is so important not to play yourself in situations such as these. If you are not happy with the other person - more than likely that is not going to change. Finally, ask yourself, does their bad behavior/personality influence my mood to the point where I am unhappy too? If the answer is yes, you may want to spend time being single, learning what makes you happy and defining what you want in a significant other.
Anonymous
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May 15, 2020
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If you continuously think that you are the only one to put in efforts. If you think your emotions are being repressed or whatever you wanna say isn’t heard. If you think that your partner only comes to you when he/she wishes and other times don’t . If you have that dicey feeling regarding your partner it clearly says that you are in a toxic relationship. If you stay distressed and find other people to overcome it or find distractions or think about breaking up usually. If you have a lot of problems and your partner does not listen to you. Give them a chance and then take the tough call required
benevolentIceCream123
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May 19, 2020
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Every person has a different experience that might make you suspect the relationship. The things I'm saying is from my experience so it may not apply to everyone but in my relationship he was very controlling but he was subtle like telling me bad things about my friends which I now realize were fake but he made me believe wasn't. He wouldn't let me have guy friends and his reasoning was I might cheat on him. He made me feel alone. He also used to make him seem like the victim and he used to cry after a fight and say sorry it wouldn't happen a lot. But they would happen again. I believed him because he was a "nice" guy before I dated him. We were too young to live together. I don't know what would have happened if it was just me and him. Thankfully I had a family to support me.
ouiCherie
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Mar 11, 2021
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There can be many signs of toxic relationship. Some of them are:
â—‹ When one of them continuously destroy the other's self-esteem and make the other feels they are not enough.
â—‹ When one not comfortable to have and voice out a different opinion out of fear that the other's would be angry or feels attacked.
â—‹ Lie, lie, lie. Regardless the excuse, that's a solid sign.
â—‹ Physical or mental abuse
â—‹ Substance abuse
â—‹ Financial abuse
â—‹ Feels threatened either physically, mentally or socially.
â—‹ Isolated from your usual social circle out of fear of your partner's reactions.
â—‹ When you constantly feels better when he/she is not around.
Anonymous
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Mar 11, 2021
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if you feel unhappy and feel like you are being controlled. these feelings can be a possible indication of a toxic, unhappy relationship. trust your gut! Abuse of any kind (physical, verbal, emotional, sexual) is unacceptable and unhealthy in a relationship. Physical abuse even one time is cause for concern and possibly physical separation for a time while the offender discovers healthier ways to deal with their anger or control. Consistent verbal abuse is also toxic and needs to be eliminated for there to be hope of developing a healthy relationship.If your partner is ritually trying to look through your phone, email accounts, social media or receipts, there need to be some discussions about proper levels of openness and privacy. If you are married then I believe that couples should have complete access to one another’s phones, computers, email accounts, calendars and social media because the goal of the marriage is oneness.
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