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How do I know if I'm in a toxic relationship?

Profile: usefulPuppy
usefulPuppy on Jan 8, 2021
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First off, you might be in a toxic relationship if you feel any sort of weird around your partner. It can be caused by anything or nothing in particular. Secondly, another simple sign of toxicity might be if you feel hesitant to share something with them for whatever reason. If you are afraid of their reaction to what you have to say, or if you think they might break up with you, this all could be toxic. Of course, your behaviour might be toxic as well. For example, if you feel like your partner should give you all their passwords, or spend all their time with you or you're constantly worried they might be cheating on you - there is probably something toxic in your relationship that you need to look into. If there is any sort of a wall between you two that prevents you from communicating your feelings, the relationship might be toxic.
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Profile: MeeelsR
MeeelsR on Jan 9, 2021
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This can be one of the hardest things to accept and see in your own life. I have struggled with this. Sometimes things can become toxic slowly, and people become accustomed to that sort of behavior or dynamic, and begin to think that it is normal. It takes a lot of stepping back and really looking at things to understand sometimes. If you are afraid of being yourself, or being honest with the other person -- those are some signs of toxic relationship. If you constantly are feeling guilty for things you didn't do but are being convinced you did, also toxic.
Profile: StassieJones
StassieJones on Jan 13, 2021
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Well I think a huge indicator that a relationship is toxic is if you're questioning if it's toxic or not. Healthy people in healthy relationships don't question a good thing. If you are unhappy, and feel the equity in the relationship isn't fair then maybe look for some signs. Is there a lack of support coming from your partner, is the communication nasty/ critical, is there a lot of jealously, is there controlling behaviors, can you actually trust this person, do they show they respect you? If you said yes to maybe even 2 of these things then yes it's toxic. Maybe you're participating in the toxicity, if that's the case then you need to take a step back.
Profile: honeycut15
honeycut15 on Feb 10, 2021
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A lot of different relationships can be toxic. From romantic ones to family ties. You'll know if your relationship w/someone if toxic if everything constantly seems to be a battle between you two. A healthy relationship wouldn't make it a game about winning or losing. You guys shouldn't be competing to be right all the time and make the other person feel like their in the wrong. You guys should support each other and uplift each other. Never putting each other down. Also honesty is the foundation of it all. If you find that you or the other person are always being dishonest to each other then somethings wrong. Trust and communication are a big part of having a healthy relationship. If you want to make it work you both have to try hard to understand each other. Another aspect of a toxic relationship is when you feel insecure because of the way the other person treats you or speak to you or if you make them insecure. Also if someone is being controlling in the relationship it isn't healthy no on should try and be over or have more authority of the other person in a relationship. And lastly you shouldn't have to avoid talking to that person about things on your mind. You should be able to attack everything head on together and address conflicts directly.
Profile: gracefulSunset7921
gracefulSunset7921 on Mar 6, 2021
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You will know if you are in a toxic relationship based on how you feel and how your significant other makes you feel. A healthy relationship does have ups and down but the ups are always greater. A toxic one has you putting up with a lot of downs for a few ups. If you feel like you had to question it in the first place, take a step back and reevaluate your relationship. Always take some alone time for yourself and see if your relationship is affecting you mentally, physically and emotionally. Put yourself first for a couple moments and see if this is what you want to continue with in the long run.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 6, 2021
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Feeling uncomfortable in a relationships is a first sign of toxicity. Feeling the constant need to say yes, and inability to say no even in the smallest things, is not healthy. You always have the right to say, no. But what if my partner gets frustrated? A toxic relationship is identified by the inability to upkeep your own mind and feeling constantly influenced and swayed. Having to restrain yourself because you think some things will stir an argument between the two, should not be happening either. You should feel open to talk about anything and if it's a truly healthy relationship, your partner will understand and support you through anything.
Profile: Peacefulsoul689
Peacefulsoul689 on Nov 19, 2021
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These are some of the things based on which one can figure out if they are in a toxic relationship or not. The partner may be very possessive. He/she may not allow the partner to do anything without permission. He/she, sometime, may become violent and hit their partner. He/she may be very abusive towards their partner- either physically or mentally. He or she has no respect for their partner.
Profile: yourpal101
yourpal101 on Apr 15, 2022
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you might be in a toxic relationship if you're wondering whether you are in one, because relationships that make you feel safe wouldn't lead you to second guess about it. if your partner constantly gaslights you and makes you feel unworthy of anything, or just makes you feel like you don't deserve anything, or if they make you second guess about why you got together with them, you might be in a toxic relationship. but remember, you might sometimes feel this way when you are not looking deep into your relationship so take a few minutes and think about it 💓
Profile: xOso
xOso on Apr 20, 2022
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I would say evaluating your relationship can be arduous. You need to first establish what you value in a relationship and establish boundaries in the relationship. Are your boundaries being broken? If so, does your partner display empathy and/or sympathy when doing so? Is change being demonstrated to better respect your boundaries? We are human and will make mistakes, however, someone who respects you will validate your feelings. When thinking of your relationship do you feel you are feeling more negative than positive feelings (i.e., guilt, sad, fearful, anger, etc.)? A toxic relationship will be riddled with extreme highs and lows. The inability to discover a healthy medium can display toxicity in a relationship. What it truly boils down to is respect. If you make your feelings and needs known and they are intentionally being violated or not met you probably should reevaluate your relationship.
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