How do I get over wanting to contact my ex?

Every time I would want to text my ex, I would do two lists in my journal: the first one, a list of all the things I didn't like about our relationship, and second, a list of all the things I am grateful for in my friendships and family. Texting a friend when you feel this way can help too! Sometimes we just feel lonely and need some support through this time. By recognizing why you broke up, you're reminding yourself why you shouldn't contact them, and the gratitude journal boosts confidence and helps you find resources to work through any emotions you are feeling at the time!

This can be a difficult thing to deal with. First perhaps think about why you still want to talk with them? You are strong and capable of being independant. Perhaps immerse yourself in a new hobby or club, work or academics. Becoming a better version of yourself can remind you that there is so much more to experience in life. What triggers the thoughts to message your ex? Can you avoid or change these things? For example unfollowing your ex’s social media accounts. Remember why you separated. It’s never easy to get over a relationship especially if you weren’t ready for it to end but it’s the perfect time to enjoy your own company and even make some new friends.