How do I get him back without seeming desperate?

Ask a clear concise question without getting your hopes up to much? A lot of the time it's just us thinking of the worse before it even happens. So if you're willing to make it happen with him, desperation is not an issue, it's the truth that you're after ☺

People are attracted to positive energy. If you work on yourself and feel great about yourself, things become clearer and the things you want in your life also do.

Just try to be friend and dont call or sms everyday and every time..act normal and he will slowly gain feeling

I am struggling with this too. I want to reach out to him after he told me he would never try to be a part of my life again

One of the first things that I would consider if I was trying to get someone back in my life is why they left in the first place. Did I breakup with them? Did I do something that hurt them? Whatever the situation is, I would see if there was something that I needed to improve in myself. Do I need to change behavior? I would then work to improve or change that issue within myself. If I did something to hurt the other person, I would apologize. If you are not aware of what the issue is or was, then it is a good idea to sit down with him and discuss what has been keeping you apart. Once you understand that, then it is easier to determine what your next steps should be.

Honestly first off, I am sorry to hear that you are even in the position in which you want to get someone back. Unfortunately there's no easy answer to this because every scenario and person is different. You may be able to get him back, and life turns out exactly the way you wanted it. Or, on the other hand, you could just be making matters worse and he may never want to have things back to the way they were. This is no way against you, this is just life. Unfortunately unexpected things happen, sometimes for the worst. If this is the case and he no longer wants things how they were, trying to get him back could just make matters worse.

Take care of yourself, be kind to yourself, and do you. Focusing your attention on someone else, and taking attention away from our self, puts us in a phase of desperation, so take care of yourself first, and bring yourself to a good level, without his presence if you can. Then approach the relationship with level headedness and communication, that aims to express how you feel, and see if he feels the same to take the relationship forward together. Remember if the cons outweigh the pros in the relationship, you have re-evaluate for yourself to determine if the relationship is something you genuinely want to move forward with.