How can you unlove someone?
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Moderated by Maria Wasielewski, Master of Arts in Counseling and Guidance, University of Arizona
Updated: Jun 10, 2022
Anonymous
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May 26, 2016
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You can "unlove" someone by kicking the person out of your life. Do not talk to them, do not look at them or whatever. Delete all messages, photos and the memories.
Get to know someone new, who deserves your love.
NathanIsHereForYou
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May 26, 2016
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Unloving someone can be very difficult. It requires mental strength and preparation to handle situations as these. Unloving someone will be painful but feel great in the end. Recommended steps to unloving someone would be to talk with them less, find someone who makes you happier/someone you love, accepting that they are not the person you deserve, and appreciation for yourself!
GingerBread212
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Jun 11, 2016
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Ignorance and indifference, simple as that. Its not hate that is the opposite of love, but indifference
Anonymous
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Jun 12, 2016
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You can't just "unlove" someone. Embrace the fact that you've been in love, deal with the heartbreak maturely and move on.
windfox3
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Sep 9, 2017
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It's very hard to stop having feelings towards people. It's probably just as hard to stop hating someone, as it is to stop loving someone. The fact of the matter is, our emotions are important. Who we give them to (or waste them on) is the key to understanding. Every single emotion that we have is a product of energy in our body. When we feel love towards someone who does not reciprocate the emotion, we're giving away energy to a person or cause that will never fulfill us. We will slowly drain, because we are giving that emotional fuel to others and not getting any nourishment in return. The same goes for people whom we love, who constantly hurt us. We can only nourish others so long and starve ourselves for love before the unhealthy cycle starts to break us down.
Once you realize the gift of your love and of your energy, it is a matter of honoring it and choosing to give it to those who will appreciate it's worth.
frankiepamela1
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Nov 14, 2017
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You can't "unlove" a person, but you can take this time to learn to be happy without them. Focus on self-care and try to think of them as little as possible. If this means hiding photos or unfollowing on social media, then go for it. Spend time with family, friends, pets, or anyone else that you love. Try new things, or continue doing old things that you enjoy. Take an art class, go for a bike ride, meditate, etc. There are so many things you can do to care for yourself while also distracting yourself from thoughts about this person. Remember that you absolutely do not need the love of another person in order to be happy. You are a strong individual who is capable of finding your own happiness.
Anonymous
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Apr 25, 2018
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There is really no one you can unlove someone once you start loving them, you might lose the feelings for them on the surface, but deep down you still love them no matter what. Unless you did not love them like true love but what you call "true love" you will never stop loving them no matter what you do.
Anonymous
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May 18, 2018
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It depends on the situation but you can unlove someone through acceptance and focusing on the present. If there is any particular reason you need to unlove them because of heartbreak, abuse, et cetera. you should sit down and think about that person. Think about who they are in the present and why you should not love them anymore. Accept that person for who they are and try not to dwell on your past with them. The more you come to terms with who they are now rather than who they used to be is when you can focus more on the present. Getting more involved with things that are presently happening rather than the past will help you move forward and grow as a person.
Nansidrew
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Jul 27, 2018
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Frankly, you can't. At least, not at first. You'll try and try to get them off your mind, but they'll keep showing up in your thoughts. This cycle continues; the regret, the sadness, the loss, the pain. Until one day, you wake up. And they're not the first thing on your mind. Stay strong, it's a long journey.
Mahony1989
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Aug 8, 2018
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I dont believe you can unlove someone once you have. It can turn into anger and frustration, amd maybe detatchment. But once you love its unlikely you will ever unlove them.
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