How can you unlove someone?
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Moderated by Maria Wasielewski, Master of Arts in Counseling and Guidance, University of Arizona
Updated: Jun 10, 2022
Anonymous
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May 5, 2016
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By falling in love with oneself, by promising our inner conscience that we will not remember the person anymore,by remembering that person's mistakes.
Anonymous
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May 6, 2016
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I don't think you ever can. They will always be a part of you. The only thing you can do is try to make that piece become smaller
Sassy001
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May 8, 2016
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I don't think you can just unlove someone.You can't help the way you feel.Feelings aren't right or wrong,they just are.You can still love someone and not have them in your life though if they are wrong for you,cause you pain or problems.
Anonymous
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May 12, 2016
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you cant, just remember when you did and try to remember the good things it is easier to move on that way
Anonymous
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May 13, 2016
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I guess you can't really "unlove" someone. It's just how you move on. When you love someone, a little part of them is still going to remain in your heart. But being able to love someone else and accepting the fact that you guys were once together and now aren't is the big step to moving on.
usefulPower63
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May 13, 2016
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Unloving someone is not a possible thing. Holding will not help you. Forgive and accept the fact that it's gone.people change. Forget and forgive
Anonymous
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May 14, 2016
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It's not so much about unloving someone as it is redefining the relationship so it's suitable for you. If the relationship is abusive then it might change from dependant to see every now and again or don't see at all. I'm unsure how to make the feeling go away, so instead I accept it and find a place in my heart for it.
blueskysmile777
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May 18, 2016
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If you really truly love somebody, I don't thinks it's possible to 'unlove' them. If there is a particular reason for a sudden want and need to detach your feelings from a specific person, I would say that it's because this person has either done something that has caused you upset, or made an exit from your life; in which case, I urge you to ask yourself if you truly ever loved them, or just felt a momentary strong connection with them, and possibly a dependence on the good they once fed you.
Ilianna12878
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May 18, 2016
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Love doesn't have a cure when you love someone that's it there's no going back but there is a getting over. Love is powerful but some people don't really know what love is.
Anonymous
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May 19, 2016
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Unloving someone, if you are really determined could be possible. Time is a good factor in unloving someone. The more time stretches, the more you will forget the person. But to forget them, you have to change your mindset. Changing our mindset doesn't mean hating them. It's about acceptance. Acceptance of the fact that we are not in control of such things as love. Make it your principle not to invest emotions or stop investing emotions to things that we have no power to control., such as the other person's heart.
IreneDreamer
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May 19, 2016
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I think that when you are trying to 'unlove' someone you can't think of it as just a button you can press and then everything will be over. It is a process and it takes time. Firstly it would be good to distance yourself from the person so you will be able to see things from a distance. That way you can clearly see the situation and how it didn't work out. Maybe this person harmed you in some way that now you are not able to see because you are still close to them. Fill your life with family, friends or maybe even new friends. It will be good to see how real love feels and be happy.
Anonymous
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May 19, 2016
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you cant unlove someone but you can choose what you do about it . accept what things have become and do fun things with friends. you can even be friends with your exlover and if you choose to do that, moving on is a lot easier and less complicated , i know from experience.. sure you might get those feelings you got with them when you were together but its better then having them be your everything on day and a complete stranger the next day.
ZereftheHappyFairy
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May 20, 2016
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You can never unlove somebody. When you fall in love with somebody they take a special place in your heart.
sereneBlue2121
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May 23, 2016
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It's not easy to fall out of love with somone, especially someone you spent a lot of time with and truly loved. It takes time, and fnding yourself agaist and who you are without that person that can help you move forwards. Let your friends halp you by talking to them about how you feel, and you'll be on the road to recovery before you know it!
Anonymous
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May 25, 2016
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you can't make your self unlock someone it will take time. if you can remove yourself from situations where you'd see that person
Anonymous
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May 26, 2016
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transferring that love to the ones who deserve it......
There are many who you don't recognize......
Anonymous
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May 28, 2016
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Love doesn't have a switch. You can't simply turn it off...It's not possible, but maybe with time it can't go weaker.
WonderlustKami
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May 29, 2016
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Love is not something like a string or glue; it's a bond that never quite is finished coming into being and never really fades away. I was always taught that we, as humans, should try and love everyone so that one day those same people could love us in return. Loving a bad person doesn't make the love bad just as much as eating a sundae prepared by someone with a mean face doesn't make it taste sour.
You shouldn't try to "unlove" this mysterious somebody; instead, remember the good things, acknowledge the not-so-good things, take everything that you've learned from meeting that person and then throw the rest into a mental safe. This is a practice that I've learned from years of not-so-good things and I think that I've become a happier, more open person because of it.
Try it out and see how it works for you.
Ayeeitsbrii
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May 31, 2016
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You can never unlove someone no matter how hard you try. You may never love the same anymore but for one thing you will still always love that person in your heart. Even over time you will forget about them and think you don't love them anymore but then once you hear or see them again you'll see that you still love them.
EuphoricFuture
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Jun 1, 2016
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Try to throw away the traces. Like thing that hold memories of them. Each object contains a memory that was created by you and that individual.
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