How can you unlove someone?
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Updated: Jun 10, 2022
Anonymous
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Feb 14, 2019
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It's hard to unlove someone, but if that's what's best for you then just think about the things you didn't like about them, their flaws, and how they weren't right for you. Don't think about the wonderful times you spent together or the conversations you held with them, look at the negative things, and you're heart will detach itself from them. But be careful, you don't want to learn to hate them over these things. Don't think about the time that they comforted you when you were crying or the hilarious inside jokes you made/had with them but the times they made you upset and you felt conflicted about them. I hope this helps love
Kendall2000
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Mar 17, 2019
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Love is a complicated yet beautiful thing. When you are in love with someone it is hard to think about not being there with them or not being in love with them anymore. But sometimes you have to stop loving someone for either your good or theirs. To stop loving someone you should try new things, hang out with new people so you will forget about them in that moment. You will see how much fun you can have without them and realize you don't need them. Also completely cut them out of your life. If you have to be near them limit the time with them. Stop texting or calling them and unfollow their social media so you don't have to think about them. And give it time, you won't stop loving someone right away especially if the one you love was a huge person in your life. Remind yourself whenever you think about him/her that you need to stop, you need to get over them. And put yourself out there to different people. That will surely take your mind off of that person because there will be a new person in your life.
Anonymous
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Apr 20, 2019
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I don't believe you can just unlove somebody. You will always hold a little bit of love for someone. The main goal is to love someone more than you loved the other person even if that person is you. If you got out of a relationship because it just wasn't right or you were better friends or any other reason, talking to that person and understanding what really happened is another way to get closure. Ive been in this situation many times, the best thing i have learned to do is remember the good times with the person and try to find someone to make double the memories with.
Anonymous
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May 8, 2019
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you can't , you just have to go on your life .your heart may be broken and you may feel sorry to your self , it's life and it is always unfair . your love is natural, you could respect that and find another way to forgive and forget the past .start over and over again till you find your path.
sometimes we make mistakes ... big ones to the only one who truly help in times no one can ....who truly needs our love and effort not any one else ...that one is us . yes we need to love our-self
Anonymous
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May 29, 2019
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By distracting yourself from them. The more you don't see them the more you'll incline away from them and start to unlove them. Taking some time away from them is the best way to forget someone you love. And talking it out with a person you feel comfortable with or basically someone from 7 Cups so that you'll completely let everything out up in your chest. In the meantime take care of yourself, your skin, your meals, and health. Go out to have fun with your friends, socialize, meet new people. It's not always easy but it's possible.
Quiltangel75
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Jun 8, 2019
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If it is real love, it can't be undone. If the love isn't returned, a person just learns to live with the absence of it. It is much like when a loved one dies, you continue to love them, but of course it can't be returned. It is an emotion that we learn to live with, and cope with. We can't force someone's love. It happens or not. We go on with our life, and find a new love eventually. Love never fails. Why not continue to love the unlovely, even if it costs us emotional currency? We find new paths for that love, and never stop trying. Love is the greatest gift given by our Creator. It is worth pursuing .
Anonymous
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Jun 19, 2019
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You don’t. You shouldn’t force yourself to stop loving someone even if it hurts as you won’t make any progress and will only result in you suffering more. Some might tell you that you should nitpick at all of their bad points and hate them. Switching your love for hate isn’t something you should end up doing. Some might also say that get yourself a rebound. Again, this is not something you should do. Being in a relationship with someone while you’re still hung up over your ex will only hurt both of you.Instead, you should distract yourself. When you find yourself thinking about them, you can distract yourself by doing other things. Find new hobbies or be more immersed in your current hobby.
creativeMist74
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Aug 1, 2019
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you can not really un love someone. eventually your feelings will disappear and it will be a bit less than love... but you need to distract yourself and try to forget... find reasons why you are better without him or her. if this does not help just think of it as you still care about them and that you will always have that one place in your heart... but do not do not do not get worked up on this you do what you have to do... i hoped this helps and just remember you are amazing have a good day guys
Anonymous
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Aug 29, 2019
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Love such a temperamental thing, falling in love is easy.However falling out of love is harder you have to except and let yourself too accept the sadness and disappointment you feel about the loss of love towards them.Dont give them much attention focus on you what do you want to make you happy. Look at the individual as they really are with all their flaws and imperfections. Talk with an unbiased friend about how your feeling its easier to get a perspective that way. Everything happens for a reason one day you will find someone who will love you for you and make you happy.
beautifuldarkclouds
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Sep 12, 2019
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That is a strange but good question. Unlove, for me its non-existent word. If you love someone, that never going to go. You always keep that person in the corner of your heart. For example, you love someone, and that relationship ended after a few years due to some reasons like both got to take a different path. And you respected the decision you and your partners had made. It will take time to accept that break up, how hard you try, you can't give up that love. That pure love stays. It always does. You can undo something in such thing is that expectation and those attachments. You can undo those feeling only by finding true love.
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