How can you unlove someone?
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Updated: Jun 10, 2022
Iknowwhatyoufeel
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Jan 10, 2018
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I believe that if you really, truly loved someone, the love will never go away. It will diminish over time if you take care of yourself, and accept that it's okay. The love will always stay with you, but if you accept that it's okay for it to be there - it'll fill up a lot less space :)
uniqueVoice64
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Jan 18, 2018
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There is no way you can unlove someone. There are certain things in life that cannot be controlled no matter how hard we do. You cannot unlove someone but you can accept that he/she is not right for you. All you need is just to accept that things don't always work the way we planned it.
optimisticBlossom66
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Jan 27, 2018
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Just takes time. You gotta try to erase any thing that can could trigger your thoughts or memories of him/her and keep yourself busy and rely on support with family and friends. Eventually you'll gather a sense of nomalcy and you'll be able to move on. :)
plantwoman
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Feb 8, 2018
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Think about things you disliked the person. Remember the times that they made you feel bad. Think about some of your needs that weren't being met by them. Remember that memories are subjective and that you might be romanticizing the past and that person. Then think about the future and all of the people who are more deserving of your love and will love you back the same.
Anonymous
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Feb 17, 2018
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You don't :) If you want to forget about someone, the best thing you can do is to NOT try to forget about them, NOT try to "unlove" them. When you're TRYING to do it, you're actually focusing on them even more.
lonestar87
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Feb 24, 2018
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You can't simply unlove someone. However, the feeling we cling to after a breakup is normally the routine. The things you did together, having company, a companion. Even watching a tv show you used to watch together can be hard now. The thing you need now is a new routine. You had one before them and lived just fine. See friends often, take up a hobby, spend time alone doing something peaceful. Once you start to feel at peace with yourself and love yourself and enjoy life these feelings will start to diminish. I've had a breakup i never thought I would get over and stop loving him. A few months later he was like a stranger to me and I felt happier. Time is a healer :)
Anonymous
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Feb 24, 2018
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I believe you cannot unlove someone. They will always have a space in your heart because they have shared special moments with you. Maybe the love will fade but not completely.
Anonymous
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Feb 26, 2018
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You can never unlove someone but time helps in making it a distant memory ...and maybe the feelings will slowly fade away
allnaturalUnicorns70
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Feb 28, 2018
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If only it was as easy as clicking on a button eh? What if you can't? What if you can only consciously decide that the love you feel for someone just isn't helping your life, and you focus on something else? Best of luck to you.
Cpcoleman1WSU
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Mar 1, 2018
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You let your mind convince your heart why that needs to be. For example in a breakup situation, you can focus as negatively as possible and as morbid as it sounds, poison your heart to that person.
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