How can you unlove someone?
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Updated: Jun 10, 2022
Luvnbeast
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Jun 7, 2017
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By being able to let go and refocus on bettering your life without that person in it. Only once you are starting to be successful can you really let go of loving that person. Really there is no such thing as unloving someone, as you can't undo what you have done. So all you can do is simply move forward without them.
Mindful71
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Jun 10, 2017
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Love and loving has two intermingled aspects to it. One is the feelings we have about the person we love, the other is of a logistical nature meaning how do we act on our love feelings, Do we spend time together , do we get married, do we correspond etc.
So in the unloving aspect , it is merely to define the logistical ways we choose to connect with the person. For instance i may choose not to marry the person or have an affair with them but maintain friendly communication. Separating the feelings from the logistics will sort out the issue. You can still love someone but disengage from them logistically, I would not call it unloving.
on the other hand if you feel like you are done with a relationship, there is nothing wrong with moving on in life and not staying hung up with the emotions of the past.
Anonymous
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Jun 22, 2017
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You can't unloved someone. It hurts, but eventually it won't if you work forward. A few things that will help are picking up a new hobby to keep you busy from your invasive thoughts. And constantly think positive of how you feel. You could also talk to others to help ease the pain.
Anonymous
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Jul 7, 2017
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You can't just unlove someone. But with enough time, space, family and friends to support you through tough times eventually that person will become, as the song says, somebody that you used to know.
ScarlettCarson
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Jul 7, 2017
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Sometimes you can, sometimes you can't. The world works in duality.You can focus on their flaws and distance yourself from the person. Those things can help.
5thousandmiles
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Jul 13, 2017
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Simply but, you can't. The cliche saying that time heals is true, as more time passes the less you'll think about that person and less you'll love them. You'll never forget, and you'll have moments where you still love and maybe even miss them.
Dorkprincess143
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Jul 14, 2017
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I do not belive you can. But you can learn to live without them. It becomes easier once you realize things will get better.
Anonymous
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Jul 15, 2017
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You can never unlove someone who once meant the world to you. You just get used to the pain they brought when they left you. That's why it is called moving on not forgetting.
Anonymous
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Jul 21, 2017
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Heartbreak hurts. But time and tide will change all things. There is no need to unlove someone. They will always hold a special place in your heart. But know that perhaps things weren't right for the both of you. And it's time to move on.
alina17
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Jul 26, 2017
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I don't think you can really unlove someone. If you really loved that person, they will always be in your heart, no matter what, you will always care for you even if you don't talk to them or if you're in bad terms with them. You can't unlove a person, because once they earn a space in our heart, they will always be there.
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