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Profile: Spirited1
Spirited1 on Mar 10, 2015
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You might not be able to choose who you love, but you can choose your thoughts and your behaviour about it. Accept the way you feel. If you fight or suppress your feelings, you'll feel conflicted. So if you love someone, then let it be so. Love freely, and want what is best for him or her, whether or not you are part of that. It is not your love that is the problem - it is your expectation of what you will receive in return. It's your longing that is hurting you, not your love. So you must accept things for what they are, not what you wish them to be. And then choose to move on with your own life and what makes you happy. Decide not to get too caught up in thinking about this person. Give other areas of your life your attention. Don't rely on someone else to fill you with love, do that for yourself. Be happy that you have a heart that is capable of love and know that you can and will love again. And most importantly, spare some of that love for yourself, and concentrate on your own needs/wants/desires. Your biggest love affair should be with the person who was there at the start, with you through it all and will be there at the end - and that's YOU.
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Anonymous on Apr 27, 2016
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you can't. i won't lie- its gonna hurt. if you really love this person, it will hurt for a long time. you'll think your getting better and then you'll see them with another girl or hear that he or she kissed someone else and the thought of their lips touching someones who aren't yours makes you sick to the stomach and you go home and have a good old fashioned sob. you won't feel better for a long time. they will constantly be on your thoughts- because loving someone has to count for something right? but after your body gets tired of making tears for the same person over and over again you will start to notice the stars in the sky again and the tulips on the road. and it will take a long time, maybe you'll hurt to think about it forever, but i really really hope and pray, you won't feel this broken hearted forever
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wiggatron on Nov 21, 2014
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It isn't about unloving someone. Your next step would be to focus on yourself and be who you are. Getting over a break-up takes time and self-reflection. You can feel lost after a break-up, and you should familiarise yourself with who YOU are. Give attention to your interests, and in time you will find happiness again, with or without someone. The thought of being without the person you love is difficult and heartbreaking, but it isn't about them. It's about you. Slowly, you'll find yourself not thinking about them and one day you'll realise you're not in love with them anymore.
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Anonymous on Feb 16, 2020
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Well, maybe it's not about unloving someone but about letting go of someone and investing the time and energy in yourself. Steps you can take to let go of this person in-order to heal yourself are: 1) Accept the situation by understanding why things wouldn't work out between you two at the present moment. 2) Practice "No contact" the right way - no calls, no texts, no meeting, no engagement and not checking them on social media. Retract your access by making yourself unavailable to this person. Also not trying to attract their attention subtly hoping to connect with them in your mind by posting photos, quotes, songs, videos or status for them. [ It's of course okay to share things if the intention is to share it with everybody or other people who matter to you] 3) Focus on rebuilding your life instead of rushing into forming a bond with a new person romantically. Engage in activities or hobbies that makes you feel productive and good about yourself. Bring your attention towards your own physical, mental and spiritual growth and development. 4) Socialize and spend time with people who genuinely care for you and are your well-wishers. If more help is needed then even talking to a professional in a mental health field can help you gain new insights and perspective on the issues you are facing and can help you heal and speed your recovery process. You will get through this, stay strong! Good luck. :)
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Anonymous on Nov 29, 2014
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In my experience, that's not a choice you can make. Love is too great to simply be turned on and off at will. It may help to think of love as a controlled fire. When you're up close, it warms you and you can stoke it to keep it going. But if you put distance between yourself and it, the less heat you will feel. Of course, despite you not being there, that fire will still burn, until it eventually goes out on its own. I think that's what unloving someone takes, time combined with distance (emotional and/or physical).
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Anonymous on May 4, 2016
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How many love songs have been written about the pain of love? It seems to be a universal experience so you are not alone. But learning to love someone in the true sense of the word is the journey of a lifetime. It starts by loving ourselves and then sharing that love with another person. What they do with that love is up to them. They may accept it or they may not. There is no guarantee that another person can or will, but isn't love it's own reward? Doesn't it make us feel wonderful to give what is in our hearts? Once we have experienced that, even if they act unloving toward us, if we truly love ourselves, we can see that there is never a reason to unlove someone. All we can do is realize that they do not want what we have to offer. But there are plenty of people who will gladly accept the love we have to give. Surround yourself with them, keep your heart open, and amazing things will happen!
Profile: IceQueen
IceQueen on Jan 3, 2015
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oNot possible to unlove anyone.You must learn to let go and move on with your life.Time will heal it, just don't see him/her, talk to him/her go on any social networking sites that he/she has, deleted his/her number, email etc and eventually you'll get over it.Don't look for any immediate relationships.The more time you can spend away from the person you love,the easier a time you'll have learning to stop loving them.
Profile: littleBallOfLight
littleBallOfLight on May 8, 2015
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Well, the first thing we need to assume is that the other person did something horrible to you, so I guess, if you're too stubborn to forgive, I guess you can. But can you really unlove someone completely and forever?
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Anonymous on Jul 13, 2015
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You cant unlove someone but you can move on and find someone else to love that will make you forget about the other person.
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Anonymous on Mar 26, 2015
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That's hard to do. Think of it as more disconnecting for that person. Love is a powerful emotion and hard to destroy. It can be hurt and can cause hurt.
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