How can you tell that you have really moved on?

You can tell that you have really moved on when you do not obsess over everything that involves them in your life. When you are not checking their social media profile everyday and seeing who they follow, when you are not checking their location, when you do not get butterflies every time you hear their name- that is when you have moved on. Moving on is an interesting concept to think about, as it can be different for every single person. Just know that it is okay to always have someone living in the back of your head; remember your experiences with them and learn from their or your mistakes.

You can tell that you have really moved on when your mind stops drifting to them, when you stop worrying about what they think of you, and when you stop thinking of what they've been doing with their time. You also aren't stalking them on social media or asking friends how they have been. Bonus points if the person you were dating/friends with has found someone else and that doesn't bother you. The largest signs you have moved on are that you're content with where you're at without that person with you, and that person no longer occupies your mind all the time.

That moment when you're washing dishes or doing laundry or any other chore and the thought comes to you about the thing that has bothered you for so long, and you just grin -- you know that moment? That's the moment where you find that the thing that happened, the thing that held you down for so long, is finally nothing more than a silly moment in the past that isn't worth getting hung up on. You've moved into a place of peace with that thing, accepted it, and hopefully learned from it. For me, that's when I know I've moved on: a goofy grin, a pause at the sink with a dish in my hand, and then I just keep scrubbing.

When you don't feel anything for them anymore, just a friend/person. You shouldn't worry that much, as you'll find someone else that understands you more. Try talking to people that care about you, they'll understand what you'll going through and help you. So, you can tell if you've moved on by what you feel for them. If you suddenly don't have any big feels for them anymore, you're probably over them. If you're sad about it, you might still like them, and thats normal. Take deep breathes and try to calm down the best you can. Remember, people love you. You matter.

When everything stopped reminding me of them. At first everything I did, saw, or heard would bring back a memory or just the thought of him. I would try to convince myself to get him out of my mind and to stop daydreaming about us. One day I heard a song we use to sing together and I didn't immediately associate it with him. After I realized it was our song, it reminded me of him. I realized I had stopped thinking about us and it felt a little sad, since that meant it was really over. It was also a relief because I moved I had moved on.

It can feel important for people to delineate when they have moved on from an aspect of their past. At the same time, though, it can be difficult for a person to tell when they have truly closed the book on a chapter of their lives. Perhaps one way a person can assess whether they have really moved on, is to take inventory of how often that aspect of their past crosses their mind in day-to-day life. For instance, if I'm trying to move on from a breakup in a relationship, I might ask myself, "how often does [name of ex] cross my mind?" I might even assess how disruptive it is to my day when I am reminded of that person, or reminded of the breakup itself. The more often you think of that aspect of your past, and the more affected or disrupted you are by the memory or recurrence of that past aspect, the less likely it is that you have truly moved on. Conversely, if you find you do not often think of that aspect of your past, or find it does not cause you distress or discomfort, the more likely it is that you have put it behind you.

Knowing you have moved on is challenging. The life events that we find jarring or traumatic are usually really jarring and traumatic. It takes time for scabs to form and for the wound underneath to heal. How I have found that I have moved on from traumatic or difficult times is that I have the same empathy for the person that I would for anyone. About 10 years after a difficult friendship disaster, the other person reached out to me with a question about getting help for her autistic son. What I felt for her was the same that I would feel for any mother who was trying to do the best for her child. I didn't feel moved as though this was my sister reaching out to me (the ex-friend and I will never be there) but I didn't feel malice or resentment. I felt what I would if a casual acquaintance had asked me. I had moved on. How do you know you moved on? With respect to relationships, maybe you are able to treat the other person with the basic care and empathy you would a stranger or casual friend.

If I don’t think about the person and try not to get in touch with them. I don’t get attached. I’m fine. I just like helping people by talking to them as much as I can. It’s the least I can do. I try to make them comfortable but that doesn’t meant that I’m attached it just means that I care and I try to care as much as I can it’s what makes me me. I’m trying hard to help people and that makes me feel great and makes me feel important. This is a great platform and I love it

Moving on is a subjective topic, some people take a day to move on while others might take several years. But when you have finally moved on, you won't think about your ex in your idle time, you won't imagine yourself with them when a romantic song plays, your life will be more than just chasing that one person. When you feel you are now ready to date, not because you need to make another person jealous or get over them, but you need to find someone who deserves the gem you are, is when you know you have moved on and the feelings for that person are now dead and nothing can make you love him/her again. You might feel happy for their success or love them like a friend does but you won't ever want to be with them as a partner, that is when you know you have moved on.

from personal experience, you can tell you've really moved on when you find yourself thinking less of them, and more of your interests, or someone new. when i went through my worst breakup, i had taken the time to realize how much better off i was with someone new, and then found the one for me. what started as the worst feeling in the world, started getting much better. i had realized the amount of @buse i had taken, and started thinking about how i deserved much better. finally, less than a month later, i had already been able to move on to someone who was much better to me, and more patient with my feelings. take your time moving on, as its not always easy! it's completely valid to spend days, or even years to move on.