How can you move on after a long term relationship?

While we all know time is the only way to fully heal, I found 2 way to help deal with the wait! First, I set an alarm around 8pm and only allow myself 30 minutes to grieve the relationship. I usually like to write, listen to music and cry or exercise. Once that alarm goes off... I have to be done for the night. This also help during the day because I know there will be a time I can deal with my feelings but also helps me leave my free during the day. The second thing I always do it to schedule an event once a week that I will look forward to. It can be dinner with a friend, movie night, an art project or whatever I like but looking forward keeps me from looking back! :)

It is often difficult to move on after a long term relationship when so much of your life was invested in that person. Your future starts to look different and can take a different turn. Someone once told me that a break up means that you can create a new future for yourself. This is great advice. Post break up is the time to turn to your inner self and ask "What do I really want?" Now is the time to focus on you. You might want to move house, change the area in which you live, start a new hobbie, get fit again, learn something new, re connect with old friends, make new friends, work on a job promotion, change careers, take a holiday. The options are endless. It's important however to take some time out before making any drastic decisions. Take some time to be in the moment, feel the pain, feel the grief, come to some acceptance about your new situation and be kind to yourself.

There is always a reason why you want to move on and why you left in the first place. Always remember that reason and never look back. Let go of what you can't change and move towards new things.

The key here is to focus on what has been with us longer than our long-term relationship : Ourselves. After a long-term of giving and caring and sharing and putting that special someone before us, we need to put us in place of that special someone. Its time for self-improvement, new friendships, hobbies and fun. :)

Remember when you move on and let go off, you will find peace within. Everything about holding on is torturous. You regret, you feel ashamed and guilty, you obsess—it’s all an exercise in suffering. The only way to feel peace is to quiet the thoughts that threaten it. Letting go opens up new possibilities. Don't think about any time as lost. Don't think that you've made a big mistake. The relationship was a mistake and hence it couldn't stand strong, but you need to go long.

The biggest answer you'll get is going to be that it takes time, and that's true. It takes time to get used to what it's like to live life without that person, but you need something to do during that meantime so you don't feel so negative about it all, and the best thing for that is distractions. Finding things that you enjoy to do that are worthy of your time so that you don't have to be stuck lonely with your thoughts, because that makes moving on even harder.

It takes time but you would eventually get over it. Start Meeting new people go out stop thinking about it right through I know its hard but by you thinking about it ,it will take you longer to get over it and move on

It may be long term or short term relationship. but, the intimacy matters in any relationship. so, usually, a long term relationship has good bonding. so, moving on after that is difficult. yeah. it is agreeable. but, moving on is not impossible. the first thing we have to take up in our mind is that we are not born for others or not living for others. our life is for our's sake. and so, we wish to live it to the fullest. if this thought is nurtured in mind daily, it would be comparitively easier to move on, instead of remembering the same person and about the past.

The simple answer is: just do what you always do. Work, eat, sleep, play, etc. Try to engage yourself in some new activities. Spend time with friends, or making new ones. Eventually you will start feeling better, whether it feel that way now or not! You'll meet someone else when you least expect it and the rest will be water under the bridge.

For many ending a long term relationship, regardless of the reason can be traumatic. We all change when we're in one and after coming out of one we have to reevaluate who we have become. Sit back, let it sink in an rediscover who you are and what your goals now are. That should help getting over any stress or possible pain you may have experienced.