How can I stop thinking about my ex?

My previous boyfriend was my first and only boyfriend. I was excited and nervous to know what it was like to be in a relationship. We were an on and off couple every now and then. When we broke up my mind wasn't attached to my heart. My heart didn't miss him but my mind did. Weeks passed and it finally hit me. I missed him and all I could think was him and how we used to be. I had to learn to get out of the mind set of missing. I used that time by learning how to draw better and be a better person for my own sake. Be stronger for my own sense. Every now and then I catch myself thinking about us. I don't regret those moments with him. They are memories for me to cherish.

You need closure. Find out why you broke up. After that just try to be happy with yourself. It's very hard to do but you have to find someone or something that makes you happier.

Try spending time with friends. Having fun and enjoying yourself can often help with taking your mind off things.

Thinking about ex's is a time monster. One of the best ways to not think so much about past memories and how painful it is to not be with that person anymore, is to take on a new hobby or volunteer position doing something that you truly enjoy and maybe have always wanted to try but never got the chance. It will open up new doors and expose you to new people. Stirring things up a little and helping others is a great way to not think so much! Horseback riding, archery, joining a choir, helping in a soup kitchen or food bank, adopting a dog or volunteering at an animal shelter- whatever makes you feel good and puts a smile on your face :)

Tell someone close about your ex. The sweet memories, the sad times, the reasons why you broke up, how you feel about your relationship and more. Just basically tell him/her everything about your ex. As vividly as possible, to get it out of your head. Next, keep away all of the stuff that reminds you of your ex. Be it the pictures on the wall or the sweet gifts from him/her. Keep them all away. You can choose to put it in a box and place it in the store room or just simply throw them all away. If the couch or bed reminds you of your ex, try to buy a new cover for it. Replace the bed covers and buy little pillows for your couch, just make it look different. Lastly, don't allow yourself to have the time to think of your ex! Busy yourself with things. Be it sports, reading, hanging out with your friends or even watching drama. Just do anything to distract yourself! And when time passes, you'll soon forget about your ex.

You can start off with living in the present rather than the past bud, this happened to me a few times and it messed me up bad I almost dropped out of school over one person! I know it sucks now but think now that you're one step closer to the one.

This is something that I have struggled with personally and I know how tough it is. Honestly, it just takes time. I know that's not the answer anyone wants to hear but the thoughts really do go away over time. My ex broke up with me over a year ago and to this day I still will have occasional thoughts about him, but I no longer think about him everyday or all the time. It can also help to find a hobby you enjoy, or a fun way to occupy your time. Exercise, join a club or a class, do some art, set goals for your future. Find something that makes you happy and focus your thoughts and energy on something positive. Spending time with friends or family can take your mind off of him too.

Now this can be really difficult as generally we hold alot of feelings towards the people we enter relationships with. Self care can be really important like keeping yourself busy, and taking up a hobby in the begining. Over time these feelings may subside and be less. If this.has been happing for a while then it may be worth talking to a listener or therapist for support in overcoming these feelings.

Find things you enjoy to occupy your time. Start a new hobby that doesn't have a connection to your ex.

The best medicine is your friends company. When you are busy talking and having fun with friends you'll forget about your ex in the moment. You will be talking about other things, thinking about other things. Keep doing this and you will realize that the world has much more to offer.