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How can I stop thinking about my ex?

Profile: Amy890
Amy890 on Oct 23, 2021
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Make a list of all the positive but also the negative sides of your ex and also the negative sides of the past relationship. It will help you stick to reality instead of idealising this person. Control the use of social media. Try to focus on your own life, try to get interested in a new hobby. Exercise an option of not contacting your ex for some time for example a month in order to get space for new perspectives, clearing up your head etc. If there is something you want to tell your ex and that's why you can't stop thinking you can try writing a letter that you might never send.
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Profile: MatjavexyBI
MatjavexyBI on Oct 28, 2021
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So forgeting your ex can be a difficult process but it is necessary if you want to move on and have a better life and find someone who will I've you as much love as you give it to them. You can start slowly, step by step, focusing on some other things which make you happy. But it is important that you know you cant bury your feelings because sooner or later they will come back and it will be even harder to get over them. Thats why you gotta take it seriously and start with self-care activities and if you need any help just reach out for help because only on this app you will find a lot of people who are ready to help you out.
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Anonymous on Nov 25, 2021
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Something that has helped me in the past was focusing on things I enjoy unrelated to the ex. For me, it was painting, giving myself a facial, and other hobbies I might had not had much time to pursue while in a relationship. Meeting new people even just for friends can also give perspective that there are plenty of people out there and it's not the end of the world if something doesn't work out. Life is full of new experiences. Sometimes I would also allow myself to just reflect on the situation, where it went wrong and what I could do differently in the future. Accept the mistakes I had made and try to grow as a person going forward.
Profile: HW46
HW46 on Dec 15, 2021
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Find a hobby, also join a group activity-like group hikes or book clubs. I find that when I spend time being of service to others I can not only feel great, but I get out of my own head. Think about what you enjoy and learn how you can be of service in that area. If you like animals, maybe you can volunteer at a zoo or animal shelter. If you like music maybe you can volunteer to help the music department at a church. There are so many different things available to do good and feel good.
Profile: DarkPiT23
DarkPiT23 on Jan 26, 2022
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Distract yourself so you're literally too busy to even think about them. Establish some boundaries with yourself. Give yourself some time to feel sad, or mad, or angry, or literally whatever. Understand that you may still have lingering feelings for this person, and that's okay. Indulge in all the self care
Profile: Comfyshell05
Comfyshell05 on Feb 27, 2022
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I think it's hard to do if you still feel for your ex and also depend on the bonding you two shared. But nothing is impossible, it's okay to miss him/her. Moving on from a person is really important. You need to let go of him/her, remove his/her essence but don't forget the lesson you learned. I think to move on you need to try making yourself happy everyday, that's really important. Take a break from daily schedule, go out with friends, on a vacation, buy yourself your favourite things, eat your favorite food, focus on your hobbies. I guess these things will help you a lot. Also someone told me that think of life as a journey you're travelling by train, you meet people there but don't get attached to them and when their station comes, they have to get off and then you just let them go. I hope this helps :)
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 9, 2022
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Trying to not think about an ex is quite difficult specially right after a break up. From personal experience I’ll say making new friends either online or in real life is a great way to stop thinking about your ex, getting a new hobby that you can do alone or with your friends or just listening to music can really help, talking to someone about them can also help you get them out of your mind. It’s gonna be hard and takes a lot of time to get rid of those thoughts but stay strong and you’ll get through this, sending lots of love and positive energy
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Anonymous on Apr 16, 2022
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Take time for yourself. What kinds of things do you like to do? Give yourself mindful ex-thinking breaks: tell yourself that you're going to take 24 hours to place ex-thoughts into an imaginary box, and set a day and time (like Tuesday at 2:30pm CST) to come back to them, almost like scheduling a meeting. Sometimes that helps in the short-term. More long-term, it might be worth exploring why thoughts are still coming up: do you still have feelings for this ex, are you still communicating with this ex? Why did the relationship end? There might be unresolved issues worth figuring out, and if you can no longer have honest heart-to-hearts with this ex about those issues (if they exist), consider seeking out a trust person to get some perspective and support--definitely worth doing that, if that's the case
Profile: Lakki
Lakki on May 17, 2022
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Thinking about an ex is pretty common, even when it's something that we don't want to do. Unfortunately we don't have much control over our thoughts and feelings, and trying to stop them can make them more intense. Something that can help is trying to pay attention to your thoughts, noticing when these thoughts come up, acknowledge them and any feelings that come up with them by saying something to yourself like 'I am noticing thoughts and feelings about my ex'. Then you can do something like taking a few deep breaths, noticing your body by pushing your feet into the floor or the palms of your hands together, or naming a few things that you see or hear. This can bring you back into the present moment instead of getting all caught up in your head. It's ok if the thoughts are still there, even though they're unpleasant because we can't control that. But we can control our actions. You might have to do this over and over, and that's ok. Eventually you might find that it gets easier, and helps you slow down and continue on with something that you want to do, instead of feeling so consumed by those thoughts.
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Anonymous on May 25, 2022
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Firstly, ask self what happened that you aren't with your ex anymore. If there was a valid reason (such as adultery or violence) then you can simply remind self that there was a valid reason you aren't with them anymore and focus on something else. If the reason is on your side, you can simply remind self not to do the same mistake anymore and go on. If there wasn't a valid reason that you aren't with them anymore, is there a possibility to reconciliate and start to be together again? If not, can you maybe focus on something else in order not to think about them?
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