How can I stop thinking about my ex?

You might be really going through a tough time. Life comes with it ups and downs, but you shouldn't dwell on the past. Remember there is more opportunities and hope ahead of you. Focus on yourself and grow as a person. Get yourself calendar of activities such as; hiking, taking a walk, meditation, yoga, or hang out with friends. Write down all the things that you use to enjoy as a kid and try to create an atmosphere in your space that encapsulates those activities. Keep looking forward and not back. There's light at the end of the tunnel. You can do it

Well, it really depends if you want to be with them or not. If you have decided with full faith in your mind not to be with them, then only we shall proceed. I suggest that you should distract yourself from thinking of her by doing something else. Something that you enjoy. Eventually you'll not think of her. Well it is the past that you're wondering about isn't it. Does that past exist? No it doesn't. So it is unwise to worry or think about something that doesn't exist anymore. You must believe in yourself. You must be yourself.

I went through a break up recently too so my answer is personal. I still think about my ex too from time to time, but less so with time. I think what's important here is that I've accepted that it's over. We both had mistakes in this relationship and in the end we knew we couldn't really give what each other wanted. It doesn't stop me from caring about him, but it's over. One door closed might lead to another open. I cherish my ex and our memories still, but he's a part of my past, not my future.

Think of an activity/hobby you enjoy. Focus on that, set some goals to do with it. How can you improve your skills? e.g. if there's a certain sport you enjoy, join a team, or try doing a hard move, watch some games of the sport, read about the sport, train to play the sport, play the sport with your friends etc. If you enjoy cooking you might want to buy some cookbooks, look up some recipes, cook with friends, invent a recipe yourself, go to a restaurant etc. This way, you're doing something you enjoy, you're improving yourself and distracting yourself from your ex.

Realize the reason they are your ex is probably that you were way too good for them. I know you may get this answer a lot, but it’s the truth. You deserve someone who will treat you right and stay there for you always. That someone with be so sad if you try to go and will try to stop you without threats. If they don’t threaten you or hurt you or lie to you, then that means they might be the one that is god enough for you. Until then, brush it off and try again! My best wishes, Chris

Here are some tips that I have done to help myself. - Stop talking to them. this is usually very hard to cut the contact - Block them if you have to -Find a hobby you enjoy - may be a positive distraction -Go out with good friends - Spend quality time with family - Go to social events with people your age where your ex will not be. -Journal daily about your feelings. -Watch funny or happy shows or movies - Talk to a good friend - Talk to a trained listener or a therapist that is knowledgable in breakups and relationships. -Stay positive and know you will get through this.

As much as we might like to, we can't always "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind" our exes away. I still randomly think about my ex, and I've been married for years. You could have experienced some trauma in the relationship which is causing you to feel emotions being brought up over and over again. Or if your breakup is relatively recent, you just might not be ready to move on yet. Relationships are hard, and require us to be extremely vulnerable and open. When they end, we are right to feel wounded and exposed. Allow yourself to feel however you need to, allow yourself to grieve, and even think about your ex if you want to, but don't dwell on it if you can. Things like this take time, and sometimes a LOT of time. And if you don't feel like it's something you can overcome with time, a trained mental health professional, like a cognitive behavioral therapist, can help you develop coping mechanisms to deal with your pain and move forward.

This is difficult because attachment is relative to the relationship and the people involved. However, I think the best way to stop thinking about an ex is to put your energy elsewhere. This could be focusing on yourself, through self care and making sure tht you can be the best version of yourself that you can be. You can also try to find new hobbies like a sport or crafts. Another way to approach this is to understand that these things take time and people are not wired to let go of a person so easily, so be patient with yourself and give yourself some time!

The question I see is "How can I stop thinking about my ex?" Looks like this will be a theme with my answers as again I must start with "You don't" and here is why: I think every relationship we will ever have (including, but not limited to intimate relationships) could teach us something about ourselves and thus help us get to know who is "me" and what do "I" need to be the best me possible. Sounds silly, but it seems the longer we live the more we realise how little we know about ourselves. We all have a "blueprint" for life but non of them seem to be the same. Have You noticed that? So on the subject of any ex - there was a reason, why we were together. Embrace that. There was/is a lesson about "me" and what "I" want in life somewhere in there. Learn that. And if you have done both of those, you may well feel that you have grown as a human - and that is something worth think about, remember and being thankful for.

Is there anything that reminds you of them (for example- a stuffed animal that reminds you of them?) If there is, get rid of the object. It will decrease times that you think about your ex. You don't have to go to the extent of blocking them on every social media app but start by unfollowing or unadding them on one platform. That way you are slowly and slowly getting rid of them in your brain. I would also listen to music that reminds you of power so that you can focus on something else and not them. Also exercising can help take your mind off of them for a short period of time!