How can I stop thinking about my ex?

Realise that as much as you are thinking about the good times, when it's all over, that person was not perfect- of course, nobody is perfect! There must have been times in the relationship where you might have thought "this person isn't right for me." Of course, you shouldn't ever completely discount the good times- the positive feelings you had with them, the great moments that you shared, all of the reasons you were with them, but realise too, that every relationship is a balance, and they are a real person who surely made mistakes. The more you see your ex as a flawed person, the less you will think back on them as a dream you can't get back.

To be honest, it is hard to forget someone who was in your life that you shared emotions with, and have memories about. In the moments where you are thinking about your ex, dont run away from it. Sit down in a quiet space, allow those thoughts for a few minutes, focus on the good ones. Remember the reasons for your break up and take a mindful exercise after that. Be it some deep breathing, or what makes you feel calm. Then leave all those thoughts there. Get up and do something else. With time you will be able to control the thoughts and slowly you will find you are having less thoughts about your ex.

1. Block them on whatever social media you have with them. 2. Stop communicating with them. 3. Think about all the reasons why you guys broke up and why you're better of without them. 4. If it was a bad breakup remember why it was bad and why you wanted them out of your life. 5. Stop going over your memories with them and talking to your friends about them- completely erase them from your life. 6. Move on- start spending more time with your friends or on your hobbies or interests. This helps you move on and forget about them.

it’s quite normal to be still thinking about them. Your brain might be telling you to text or call him/her because you miss them and the security of your relationship. Sometimes the pain of missing your ex might interfere with your life on many levels. *Perhaps you can’t concentrate at work? *Maybe it’s causing havoc with the relationships you have with your friends and family? *You might be trying to mask the hurt by drinking or getting into drugs? Experts agree that time will heal your pain but the longer you let it simmer the worse off you will be. Many people don’t realized how difficult breaking up is until it happens. There are all sorts of different routes to end a relationship. And yes, some people can breakup and remain good friends. Just understand that’s more like the exception to the rule and not the rule. Ask yourself if you are truly trying to forget about your ex? If you aren’t on board with this totally, well, it’s just not going to happen. Beware there are certain instances where you ex will creep back into your head and you need to be ready to accept, understand, and take action to move on.

First of all, you need to allow yourself some time to fully process the situation and what happened. This means that you need to allow your thoughts about him/her to flow through your mind---this is so that you can find closure, and move on with your life. Next, you need to eliminate him from your life in any way that you can (at least until you are sure that you are over him/her). This means that you need to delete his number, unfollow his Instagram & Facebook, and unadd him on snapchat. Doing these things will help you, but remember that in the long run' only time can heal.

Try focusing on something else in your life, your studies, career, family, friends, self care... Put all that energy you spend on your ex on something else. Find a new hobbies or start a new project, always keep your mind busy with something else. And don't punish yourself if you find yourself thinking about your ex, sometimes we do think about it and it's okay too, but when you do think about it, try to look at things with a critical point of view and understand what went wrong in your relationship and take that as a learning for future relations.

Slowly the thoughts you have about your ex will become less and less frequent. It’s hard to see now but soon you will be going about your day and you will notice you have not thought about them all day, or even for a few days. It takes time but it does happen. Try to focus on yourself and what makes you happy, don’t even focus on the bad times you had with them because that doesn’t do you any good. There is a reason they are your ex and you have so much more to look forward to that is positive!

Find something else you enjoy, reading, crocheting or take up a new hobby that excites you and gives you purpose. Remember all the reasons they are you’re ex and exactly why you are now not together. Make plans for things to concentrate on and must importantly take time to heal from the relationship and find joy in the people you have around you. If that doesn’t work then maybe you need closure so speak to your ex to tie up any loose ends . I hope you manage to take your mid if they ex and move on to big better things.

I was in an on/off relationship for a year. Although it didn't last long, I really liked him. Unfortunately, he was interested into another girl. I struggled to keep him out of my mind for a long time. But then I realized what I was worth and what I deserved. A year later, I met someone new. We have now been together for three years. I promise that it will get better and you will find love again. Know that you are worth it and deserve only good. You are not alone and you are amazing. Keep your head up and focus on you.

I understand that It's difficult. But it's not impossible. You can start with baby steps. By planning few one hour or two and doing something by yourself or with someone that you like to do, for example it can be going out, going for workout or run, or trying something new for a hobby. Don't beat yourself up if you are not able to fully focus on the task at hand, just keep trying. It can be difficult at start but ones you get used to the routine of planning next few hours and doing that stuff, then you can plan something for long term, like something you always wanted to do, or learn something new like language or some course, or you can work on your career.