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How can I stop thinking about him/her? Why my heart hurts so much?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 10, 2016
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Open up your heart. Indulge yourself in the things you love to do the most. Live for the people who love you and not for the ones who leave you lost because you live only once. :)
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Anonymous on Jun 11, 2016
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Because right now your letting emotions run through and that what happens after breakups. You have let your heart hurt in order to let it all go..
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Anonymous on Jun 11, 2016
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You need to get your life together. Prioritise what matters and what doesn't. Your heart might be hurting because you are disappointed. But don't be stuck in the disappointment. You know better now. Give yourself a set period to mourn/cry/ release emotion. If you want to stop thinking about them you should think about yourself and not him/her.
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Princessonablackhorse on Jun 12, 2016
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The hurting of your heart is a chemical reaction triggered by grief. There is no sure shot way to stop thinking, speaking from my past, but your broken heart will heal at its own pace, and then you will eventually move on and stop thinking about him/her.
Profile: lovecherry08
lovecherry08 on Jun 16, 2016
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Divert Your Mind..Keep urself busy and indulged in things you love doing .. Join Some guitar, dance Or Music Classes..Spend time with Famile ..Go out For a Outing.. Why you want to suffer or hurt urself for his/her sins.. You have Got this life to learn ,to love, to explore, to be Happy..Make a Bucket List Things you wanna Do before you die..And just Start Doing All of them one by one..:) Keep smiling Always.. :)
Profile: BestPotato
BestPotato on Jun 16, 2016
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You stop thinking about him/her when you start moving on or start thinking about something more fun and different. The more you think of him/her, the more your heart hurts.
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JackSkel on Jun 24, 2016
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The best way to stop thinking about someone you love is to distract yourself. Don't give your mind time to think about them. Watch movies, draw, do whatever keeps you busy!
Profile: AutumnLeigh
AutumnLeigh on Jun 30, 2016
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Your heart may hurt for not being able to be with this person. Time does heal but we have no control over time. It is healthy to sometimes think of our losses but unhealthy to have that person be the forefront of every thought we have every day. If this is the case, try to use distractions such as hobbies or volunteer work that makes you feel good!
Profile: charmingOrange11
charmingOrange11 on Jun 30, 2016
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Distracting yourself can be really hard and sometimes just doesn't even work. I suggest writing a long list of things you didn't like about them and sending it to someone willing to listen. Maybe you just need to talk about it more. Do not isolate yourself if you can help it.
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Anonymous on Jul 2, 2016
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It's normal to feel this way and it will feel like this for a while. Just try to be with people who love you.
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Anonymous on Jul 3, 2016
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Move on my dear. No one will be with you forever and if they left your life so early they don't deserve to be in your beautiful life
Profile: bubblytobot
bubblytobot on Jul 6, 2016
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When people break up, they can go either way: being super depressed and just don't want to get out of bed or they can completely fine. The thing to do is get busy! Take up a hobby, join a club, or go to the gym. Watch tv show, read manga or webtoon, go on a hike, take up photography or painting. Learn a new language, go to parties, go camping or to the beach. The possibilities are endless. Just know it's not the end of the world.
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Anonymous on Jul 7, 2016
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The single most common stressor that I see on this site is about relationship issues. When a relationship starts to become conflicted, it can feel like everything is spiraling out of control. It feels like your world is falling apart sometimes. That being said, it's really tough not to think about someone who's had such a huge impact on your life. One of the most important things is to have a good support system, someone or a group of people who are there to help distract you until the wounds begin to heal. It can be a long process but distraction skills have been proven effective after breakups.
Profile: DG943
DG943 on Jul 13, 2016
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Try and focus your mind on other things! What is your favorite movie, show, or book? Maybe you should give it a read!
Profile: ColoredPerspective
ColoredPerspective on Jul 14, 2016
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The best way to stop thinking about someone or over analyzing situations is to get surrounded by a good group of friends that have always been there for you and supported you. You should get out the house, go on adventures, go see a movie, or even to the park because I know you can move on and have a life without them. Most people feel like they can't but just know that you did it before you got together and you can do it again by being strong.
Profile: Wesley93
Wesley93 on Jul 14, 2016
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One way to stop thinking about him/her is to make strides in focusing on yourself. Doing things you like to do, things that make you happy, spending time with friends, etc. Engage in activities that can get your mind off of him/her while you work on yourself and make yourself better after the end of the relationship.
Profile: simplisticmoon
simplisticmoon on Jul 16, 2016
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Distract yourself. Put your phone away, go on a road trip and think about creating a better you. Put yourself first. Do things you enjoy. Try to ignore the thoughts about him/her and focus on you. Your heart hurts because you miss the person, so try to distract yourself from them.
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Anonymous on Jul 22, 2016
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You will never be able to completely forget them but you can lessen what they mean to you through time. In the meantime, do what you've got to do to release all your emotions, cry it all out, sing all the sad love songs or even run around the block 5 times if that's your thing. Release yourself, then focus on yourself and what you enjoy doing. Make yourself happy!
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Anonymous on Jul 22, 2016
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You have to think about them as a part of your past. The past. History. You can't move on unless you can learn to let go. A heart is something very precious and valuable in life. Sometimes it feels like it can break into a thousand pieces. Other times, it feels like it could flutter right out of your chest because you're filled with joy and excitement. It takes time to heal a heart. The healing process starts with letting go and moving on...
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Anonymous on Jul 22, 2016
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it hurts maybe because you are still hoping that everything will be the same again. you can do different stuff to enjoy, anything that can make you feel busy and tired. you may think of him/her again after that, but if you continue it, you'll find yourself no longer into him/her :) learn to love and appreciate yourself, everything will be quite easier.
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