How can I stop thinking about him/her? Why my heart hurts so much?

The best advise was given to me for this exact situation. Heartbreak is hard to overcome, but every time you feel yourself thinking about them - go do something else! Go on a walk, a run, read a book, workout, cook, hang out with someone. The less effort you give the pain, the more likely it is for it to disappear. It may take a week, a month or even a year, but in the end, this person does not define who you are. You are an amazing person that deserves the best and only you can find your way through the heartache in the end.

When someone's been on your mind for so long, you may start to envision all kinds of scenarios that make you like the idea of them even more (I've been there so many times...). Its painful to have to cut them out of your life, especially if they meant a lot to you. Realizing that you have to/want to stop thinking about them in the first place is a great first step. You are self-aware and can now work towards getting over them. The next thing that may help is cutting them out of your life or cutting out things that may remind you of them (like pictures, following them on social media, t-shirts...). Its always difficult at first, but its getting past the first few steps that things start to become easier.

Try to distract yourself by indulging in activities you like with your friends. If being alone is what you like, do that. Try out something new, keep your mind engaged somewhere else because when you sit idle you overthink and the memories of the person keeps coming back and you will start feeling anxious and low. Go to new places and meet new people. Create a good environment around you to facilitate your growth, with people who you like to be around. Develop strength and improve your skills at managing emotions because you may feel very vulnerable right now.

You need to focus on anything that doesn’t bring back memories of what causing you pain try to pick a up a new hobbie excercise always helps it boosts your self confidence lowers areas takes your mind off of things naturally do other activities as well try new experiences that you have never done before this will take time but with the right positive reinforcement constantly it will slowly fade away I’ve been here before any type of healing takes time if done right it won’t be over night but you be back in good shape emotional wise recovering

When we find ourselves fixated on a person, we need to wonder if it is healthy and the reason as to why we are doing it, is it a love interest? A best friend you wanna go do everything with? Heartaches suck, but sometimes we need to go find healthy distractions. Maybe calling or texting with a close friend for advice relating to the issue should be considered. I myself have crushed on a person and found myself fixated on them for a while, but eventually we can push past it and move onto something new, and or if it's appropriate maybe approach the person in a safe manner and take the dive to see what they think.

I can be difficult to deal with thoughts and emotions when we lose someone we once loved. The heart can be broken, but it continues to beat. Suppressing your thoughts and emotions actually has an opposite effect because you concentrate on the very thought you wish to go away. It's like trying to put 1000 spiders into a draw and expecting them to stay there. Take out a pen and paper and purge out your thought and feelings. Write down every emotion until you have exhausted every thought and feeling. Now fold the paper into the shape of a paper airplane and send it away from you; flying in the air until it hits the ground and simply walk away. Next, think about a good time you had in your life before him/her. Stay focused on the positive moment of just being happy with who you are. Continue to do this exercise once a day until the thoughts on paper subside and the paper airplane no longer has to fly away.

Though you might not be able to stop thinking about them right now, or immediately, I know that over time this won't seem so bad. Don't give yourself a rough time by trying not to do something, that is natural like thinking about them. Rather than avoiding all thoughts about them, you could try thinking about things differently. Remind yourself, that this may be hard but you are strong. Regardless of the conflict I have with someone, what makes me feel better is to send them best wishes and let them go from my life. This allows me to lovingly let go as a way of working on the attachment.

I understand that it could be hard at first. But slowly with time you will be alright. Try to find things which makes you happier. Things which you have better focus on. for an example you could try developing your skills like painting, singing etc. Also you can go on a journey/hike to feel free from the ongoing situation. And especially connecting with nature will ease your mind. Try travelling solo if you love exploring new places. that will make you feel free spirited and would improve your self love. And might give you new and cool ideas about how to focus on things which makes you happy. I am sure you will discover new sides of your life by being free spirited that way. If you are not in to nature or travelling, watching movies or tv series which make you laugh would help. eating chocolate, especially the dark ones also help to ease the pain in your heart. I am sure you will be able to move on with your life and feel at ease. Be POSITIVE!

Try distracting yourself, take up a hobby, talk to your friends and family. Meditate. Your will hurt for a while. Give it some time. Take each day as it comes. Wake up every morning saying “ I love myself and I will come out stronger and happier” stay focused on yourself, and believe that you deserve nothing but the best in life. Be it from your spouse or friends or family. Shift focus to work for a while and try doing things that make you happy, like taking a trip with your besties or even alone. Time heals.

Thinking or caring about someone is a burden, but it is not insurmountable. As the old saying goes, “‘tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.”. Your heart hurts because it has been used. You are living life, and loving life, and if that means that sometimes you get hurt, then surely its worth it? I am sorry that you can’t stop think about them. I am. I am assuming that you guys broke up or are in some other way separated from each other. And I am sorry for that. But you should try (even though it is hard) to think about the good things, and not the end.