How can I stop thinking about him/her? Why my heart hurts so much?

You can take your mind off of him/her by working on yourself. Maybe take up a new hobby or start a new workout routine. Sooner or later, you will find your mind and heart are at ease. Maybe ask yourself why this situation is causing you so much heartache. Having faith that your heart will no longer ache in time helps a great deal in situations like these. Distraction may play a huge part in getting over a significant other. Work on yourself, be around family and friends, treat yourself to a nice dinner. The quote "time heals all wounds" rings true.

Try focusing on the things in your everyday life that are more essential to the life you try to lead, whether that is a job, school, family or friends. Although it sounds selfish it is never wrong to focus on your own well-being before focusing on others, and it is important to focus on yourself if you're stuck in a situation where you are spending more energy on another person than that person derserves. Especially if the feelings of that person are not returned. If you focus your mind on things unrelated to that person and you do it consistently, suddenly one day you will realize that that person fills less and less of your thoughts, and it will hurt you much less.

It is okay to be in such a situation. Speaking to a listener or penning down your thoughts about the person you continuously are thinking about should help you sort out your feelings. You can then accordingly move forward in a positive way to heal from such a situation. An example of moving forward would be attaining some form of closure. Although, if the person refuses to provide you with closure, be kind and mature and avoid bad mouthing or doing/saying things in the heat of the moment. This hurt is a result of caring a lot about a person and being let down in some way but this can surely be fixed. The outcome doesn’t always have to be negative. A positive outcome would be having a mature, platonic relationship or a new found friendship with this person or could be moving on completely for your own good. Please take care and speak to a listener about this.

Sometimes, you have to stop to think: do you miss the person, or do you miss the thrills, excitement etc. when you were with said person? I used to date someone when I was young. It was my first relationship, and I honestly thought it could be it. After we broke up, I was so hung up on it I was not able to move on for 7 years. Teenage years were harsh, man. But anyways, during those years of being stuck in unrequited love, I noticed that it was not him I missed. I missed the feeling of someone making my heart flutter, I missed the feeling of someone making me laugh. Our heart is really stupid. It does not know what it really yearns for. So, ask yourself what is it about that person that you miss? Or do you just miss the feeling you would get when you are with them? If it is them that you miss, make it known to them. Even if you are not able to rekindle romantic love, maybe you could at least start again from being friends. Who knows what it will lead to? Also, it is normal for your heart to hurt but I would suggest that you try not to think of them as often. Do other things to take your mind off him/her.

Sometimes it's hard to stop thinking about someone when you still hold back ceratin memories or objects. It is very hard to forget, especially when that person meant a lot to you. I have personally been through something similar where all I did was think about that certain individual and I was hurting a lot. However, now I'm stronger, yet it is not to say I don't think about the individual. I do, but I'm not hurting. It all about time and patience, and on whether you really do want to forget this person. If you do, you will just keep your head up.

give yourself time to stop thinking of them. not having them hurts but eventually you learn to no hurt any more. getting to that point takes time and patience for yourself. Dont forget, its okay to not let go of somethings. If you have things that you've grown attached to not because of them but because of comfort, you don't need to deattach from those because in the long run that's harder on you. And most of all, through out the process of letting go, don't allow anyone to tell you its not okay to no the okay. Your'e allowed to have hard days.

The best thing to do in this case is to keep yourself busy, find hobbies and interests that you enjoy and stay motivated and on track with your life. This will help ease your mind on to something else that put your energy on and you can focus on. At the beginning it will feel impossible and your heart will feel like it has been torn a million times and your emotions will be through the roof but trust me with time things will get much easier and you will find a way to get through this-looking at the silver lining!

To stop thinking we need to stop trying not to think. When you consciously try not to think, reverse psychology operates and you end up having them all over your mind. Hurt is something that comes as a package deal when we risk feeling for someone. But honestly, it ALWAYS gets better, time heals. Practice self-love, do what makes you happy. You will see how it slowly gets easier. When you prioritize yourself you take away the power from others to make you feel hurt when you love yourself, you become in charge of your emotions. Self-love and care, me-time simple things like those make a huge difference.

In order for you to stop thinking abut your significant other (SO), you need to engage in distractions that enjoy doing. Try practicing your hobbies. Try something new for a change. Surround yourself with a trusted circle of family and friends. And I cannot stress on how exercising really cleanses the heart, be it at home, gym or outdoors. The wounds take time to heal, but they’ll heal as time passes by. Therefore, the more you engage your time with doing things you enjoy or experiencing new things, the more you are on your way for recovery and off for a good start back in life.

This can be an extremely difficult fight; we often suffer loss after a breakup, and grieve as though someone close to us has passed. Sometimes it feels like it will never subside, and that your life will never rebound with them out of the picture. So they're gone, and now you're left feeling completely out of place. Your entire routine is different now, and that ache of yearning and hurt won't leave your head. What now?.......Time. Patience. Self-love. The three essential ingredients to moving on. You need to give yourself time to figure out this new life, while also realizing when to pick yourself up. It's important to allow time for crying, talking with your bestfriend for hours, eating ice cream straight out of the carton (or all 3 at once), or however grieving looks for you. But you can't stay in that place forever. Delete the pictures; Give back the personal items they gave you; Go find new hobbies/restaurants/activities that you enjoy that you don't associate with them. Slowly but surely, you'll realize that there was a time in your life that you existed without them, and that you can do it again. You can learn to love yourself without needing someone's help to do it. Be kind to yourself; there is no schedule for healing, and sometimes you fall apart after putting it together. It's frustrating, but it's okay. Loving yourself can manifest in many different ways; it can be buying yourself a coffee, exercising more, taking time to do something you like such as watching a show, etc. Doing what makes you happy as an individual is a must. Surround yourself with people and resources who care about you and who you can trust. Getting through anything alone is near impossible. You've got this, and we are here for you!