How can I stop thinking about him/her? Why my heart hurts so much?

Although society tells us otherwise, we cannot control our thoughts, much less how we feel. It is human nature to feel pain. One option is to create a safe space where you can nurture your grief and understand and process the emotions around your pain. When we are able to identify and release those emotions, then we can truly heal and move forward.

I had just gotten out of a toxic relationship so I'm familiar with this feeling. It's okay. Things eventually get better. People move on and so will you. Sometimes we don't even miss the real person, it's the memories and the expectations of how the future might be. I usually try to distract myself in this situation. Find something that you love and passionate about. Read a book, take photos, hang out with friends, anything. Most importantly, take care of yourself.

Go out and do the things you love. Spend time with your family and friends or if you want to be alone and meditate then go for it. Try not to spend too much time on your phone and avoid stalking him/her. You will feel like your heart hurts because the pain is new and fresh. Your brain must adapt to the situation and will take time. So be patient and most importantly love yourself.

It's not easy and it's not that difficult either. But try to control your own mind, tell your mind that you don't know him and start your day by saying I'm so happy today. The moment you say such things you create a positive environment, even if you ain't happy but still after you say that you are happy continuously your mind will definitely except and then you will actually start and your heart won't hurt you😊

It is so painful when a breakup happens or a crush gets away. It can feel like a physical pain. It is so difficult to stop thinking about him/her when that's where your mind wants to go. Find a new interest and fill your days and your mind with it, whether it is a hobby, a skill or simply meeting new people. As time goes on, you will begin to heal. When you start to get that crushing feeling again, redirect your thoughts to developing your new interest. All the time and brainpower you could have spent on mourning your breakup, you will spend on developing yourself instead. Best of luck!

I have been in the sitiation and funny part is it was me who decided to end the relationship because it wasn't serving me positivly infact causing a lot of anxiety and loss of mental peace.Now most of the times we miss our exes because we had some good memories togather,always remember that you only miss those memories and the person her/she was during that good moment it doesn't mean that you want them back in your life.Talking about how hurt you feel after the breakup completly depends on what kind of relationship were you in if it was heathy/unheathy.The best thing you can do is to be very honest with yourself and think rationally because emotions will keep on changing.Work towards healing yourself and believe you deserve someone much more better...focuse on SELF LOVE

I should try to divert the mind from the thoughts that disturb the mind. Try to make busy. If the thoughts come to mind let the thoughts come and go and try not focus on it. It is common that one get hurts if he keep on thinking about it. One has to remind that thinking about past does not lead to anywhere but getting hurt badly. Do think that things has happened as it might not have been in one's control.

Try to distract yourself with hobbies or tasks where you won't be triggered to think about him/her again (for example, not watching pictures of him or her, but you can for example go to walk somewhere you weren't together with him or her and enjoy nature there. Hide from your eyesight everything what reminds on your ex (pictures, gifts, memories, letters, phone number, facebook profile). They should be hidden for at least 12 months, but if you get triggered by them after 12 months, prolong this time to further 12 months or dispose them permanently (sell, burn, recycle them).

The reason why you can't stop thinking of him/her is because you're so used to havinv them around and the fact that they're presence is no longer there affects you. It's hard for our brains to let go off something that we're used to so it keeps going back to old situations. The reason why it hurts so much is because you put so much time and efforts in another person. You invested in them whether it be emotionally, phsyically or financially and now you've lost all of it. It hurts you because you loved something so dearly with all your heart and now it's gone forever!

An excess of emotions about your ex will weigh you down as you travel down the path of seeking a new partner. It is tough work and you must persevere. You can do it! Some constructive, positive ways to release these emotions include getting some exercise, spending time with friends and family, volunteering (an excellent way to take you out of your own head), or being creative and expressing yourself through art, writing, or music. Feeling really pissed? Write down your feelings in a letter “addressed” to your ex. Don’t send it though! Instead, read it to a therapist, burn it, or throw it away.