How can I stop thinking about him/her? Why my heart hurts so much?

Ending a relationship is always hard for both parts, even if the couple agrees to break up. It is perfectly normal to feel sad or nostalgic about the time you shared. Don't worry, it is okay to grief over a relationship you don't have anymore, but there'll come a day when, hopefully you'll be able to look back at all your memories with this person and smile. But for now, you can focus on other aspects of your life that make you happy. Spending some time with friends or family, listening to some music, reading a book outside while listening to the sounds of nature... Enjoying the little things in life is the best you can do right now! If you really can't stop thinking about that person, writing down your feelings or good things you shared and want to remember can be a great way of taking the weight out of your shoulders. Above all you need to keep in mind that you are the most important person for you, and that if you weren't ment for each other it only means you'll soon find the right person for you. Cheer up, you can do this!

Your mind is focused on what it thinks it wants, and not wants good for it. When you develop feelings for someone deeply, they don't go away easily.

Maybe you should try to think of other things. Think about people who love you, like your family and friends.

Breakups are hard, but the most important thing to remember from my own personal experience is that it only gets better in time. Taking the time to learn to love yourself and enjoy your own company is so important and beneficial to your overall well-being. Once you learn to look out for yourself first, you will notice everything starting to fall into place.

First and foremost, I just want to give you a virtual hug *hugs*. I know that it can be hard getting over your significant other and it hurts like hell. Why? Because you loved that person a lot and it's hard getting separated from things/people you love. It's just the way our bodies are made. As for how you can stop thinking about them, there are plenty of ways. You can start by getting rid of EVERYTHING that reminds you of them. If you don't want to discard the items, you can simply place them somewhere you won't get access to easily. After that, you want to surround yourself with family and friends. Also, going out helps. By sitting around, you're going to keep thinking about him, so you want to keep your mind busy. Finally, you should know that it won't take a day for you to get over your significant other. It will take lots and I mean lots of time. As they say, time is our best healer. All the luck to you and I hope that you feel better soon! :)

Because your loved that person and they hurt you that's a sight u really loved them and it hurts I know.

7 Cups of Tea offers many resources to cope with life situations, have you looked for help to develop strategies on your question? We all go through different experiences in life, but you are taking steps to move forward with your life in a positive way and that is wonderful. Please feel free to share anything you need, I am here to listen.

You need to take up new hobbies or go do something that you like to do. For me hanging out with my friends really helped me take my mind off of things and him. You heart really hurts because you've probably invested so much time and energy in this person and chances are they are mostly who you talk to and who you see so when something bad happens, it's hard to adapt to this sudden change. I like to believe that things happen for a reason. When my ex and I ended things, I actually cried for an entire week. But after thinking about it, I realized that this was for the better because obviously there was a reason why we broke up. My ex sort of turned into my best friend so when we ended things, I felt so lonely and I just felt so lost and so many things that I had come to know would just stop there... so that's why my heart hurt. I don't know about you but after a little while, things will get a lot better. Be sure to have a support group or a few friends or family around because support is something you're going to need! Talking to them might also help you open up your thoughts and help you think things through too. Good luck :)

I think it is important to acknowledge that you still care about that person, that you still have special feelings for him/her despite the relationship having been ended (the reasons for the end of the relationship may vary and may be multiple like miscommunication, cheating, "irreconcilable" differences, etc). You have to acknowledge that and I think it will be best if you acknowledge that no matter how much you try to erase him/her from your past or your life, he/she still has a special place in your life and perhaps, that will never change. But this doesn't mean that this person still has "THAT" special place in your life. You have to remind yourself that he/she is special to you but in a different way. The things that used to be there are not there anymore. When this person pops in your mind, take a deep breath and tell yourself "yes, i care for him/her but the two of you are not just for each other. You will just hurt yourself more and feel stuck if you continue thinking about this person". For the 2nd question, your heart hurts because you loved and sincerely believed in the two of you together but the reality is otherwise.

It hurts a lot because you had so many memories with them and it just all seems to go. Your heart hurts now I know but I hope you know it gets better. It feels like the end of the world right now, but it slowly gets better. Don't be too hard on yourself about it, it's only normal to think about them. After all, they were a big part of some of your life. If you ever need to talk, feel free to message me.