How can I stop thinking about him/her? Why my heart hurts so much?
Anonymous
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Apr 9, 2016
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You need to sit back and take some time to realize that you are amazing human being who doesn't deserve anyone who won't doesnt think the world of you, your heart hurts because you think about the "what if I stayed with them", ect, but thinking about these things only distract you from finding your true soulmate and finding the person that truly makes you happy, so just go with the flow and let life do its work, everything happens for a reason and a smooth sea never made a skilled sailor :)
coldmemories
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May 19, 2016
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There is something you can do to make it stop. And it’s all about living in the present moment.
You see, well, if you’re thinking of him it’s because you’re not living in the moment. You’re escaping from what’s happening to you at this exact moment. For example, you’re at work creating a presentation and before you know it, you’re back at your first date together. What you need to do is catch yourself, realize what you’re doing, and bring yourself back to the present moment — which is your office, your work, and your presentation.
When thinking about him, you’re living in a time that doesn’t exist. You’re either living in the past or living in the future — neither of which exists. The only time that does exist is right now. And that’s where you need to live. If not, you’re literally letting your life just go by. You need to enjoy it and experience it. If you’re trying to escape it because you’re bored or unhappy, you need to address that.
Anonymous
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Apr 8, 2016
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You might not be able to stop thinking about someone you love, only time can create distance enough to leave someone behind.. But you can embrace your thoughts and feelings, tell yourself its okay to think about them, even though it hurts, and that it will be okay, one step and one day at the time.
LoveAll425
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May 25, 2016
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to stop thinking about him/her you have to avoid them! maybe blocking them . try hanging out with friends!!!!! your heart hurt so much because you heart wants the person but you know whats best for you! everyone goes through heartbreaks , its a normal thing in life !!!! if you need anyone to talk to im here for you!
Saraf
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Oct 8, 2016
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I know they all say "Let It Go" and "Move On" like it's that easy to let it go and move on. Well, it certainly is not that easy, speaking from personal experience. But it is true that Time is the best healer of all. You just need to give yourself some time. You need to convince yourself that you can do this, you can live your life just as you were doing before he/she came into your life. You have to go on without him/her and do it like a strong person. Bad things happen, that's life for you- but we can't let those bad things pull us down. We must live through it with patience and determination. Your heart hurts so much because you loved him/her more than you ever loved yourself. And when that's taken from you, you want to reach out and can't help but want it back. But that's okay. That's because you're human. Time will eventually soothe the heartache. But there will still be time when you're doing the dishes or staring out the window when you'll suddenly remember that day, that particular memory and you'll feel a pang in your heart, a bit of regret mixed up with sadness and void. But you'll be okay. You'll just need to be patient and hold on- till time works its magic and heal ya. :)
JustAtypicalPotato
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Apr 17, 2016
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To be honest...you don't. well for now . There's a sentence that goes by '' time heals everything'' and as cliche as it sounds, it is actually true. Right now you may be thinking that he/she means the world to you but as time passes by, your inner self is eventually gonna realize that this is so not true. He/she moved on , and so will you. It takes two to tango, and it wont be a long time before you will acknowledge the fact that you can dance with someone else too.. don't put yourself on hold for someone who doesn't love you the way you do. A heartache is just temporary. Keep your self busy till then..join a new club , read a book, There's so much more to this :) Stay strong.
Anonymous
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May 4, 2016
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When we're no longer able to be with someone we love, it can hurt deeply. Often we replay over and over what we did or didn't do, or what we could have done differently to have a better relationship. When we realize that the journey of life offers us opportunities to learn and grow, and then see these experiences and relationships steps on that journey, we start to understand that none of us is perfect. We may look back and see how we could have done things better or differently, but we did the best we could in the moment with what we knew and felt at that time. If we can learn from the experience and use it for our own growth, we will be in a much better position in the future to accept where the relationship takes us. Maybe the idea is not to try to stop thinking about him or her, but to be happy for the time you had together and for all the lessons you learned that are making you an even better person. Your insight and self knowledge is the legacy that person has left you. For this you can thank them in your heart and in time it may not hurt so much.
Brok3nHeart
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Aug 24, 2015
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Stop thinking about him/her because of the things they did or said to you. Have some self value and will-power. You're heart hurts so much because of the constant abuse you put it through by dreading on something that you can't control.
stayStrong95
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Apr 22, 2016
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It hurts cause you loved them, do something you love to get your mind off it. For example listen go music
Anonymous
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Jun 2, 2016
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If they broke you're heart, many times they're not worth it and that's okay. I was hurt tremendously by a guy; although they hurt me both emotionally and physically; thinking about them was all that encompassed my mind. We tend to look at the great memories shared between us and someone us. For you're heart to hurt and at the same time for you to think about them is perfectly okay. It takes time to move on, some heal faster than others,and some on the flip side take longer. Until you heal and are able to move on, they will be on your mind and again that's okay.
Stay strong!
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