He said I was perfect for him, but he chose someone else?
TheTripleS719
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Sep 17, 2016
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Tough as it may be, words can be nothing more than just words. He most likely didn't truly feel that way.
MachineGKyla
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Sep 18, 2016
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Boys have a hard time figuring out feelings. Maybe he was just scared that if you go to know him that he'd lose you or maybe he was afraid that he'd hurt you
Anonymous
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Sep 26, 2016
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Don't base your self worth of off someone's opinion of you. Be perfect for yourself. Maybe he didn't understand your self worth and that isn't your fault, it's his, for not appreciating everything that you had to offer.
saintcindy
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Feb 16, 2019
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at the end of the day, love is blind. maybe you were blinded by lust or love, you just wanted to feel something for someone because it had been so long. you are worth someone who cares about you and doesn’t disregard your feelings. try to move on from someone who was never sincere with you, and try to focus on yourself. your dignity is more important. it's not that you aren't good enough, it's that he's missing something in his life that no one can fill for him. but sometimes things change and people change and there isn't anything we can do.
Thoughtgoose25
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Apr 6, 2019
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You are always loved and cared about by other people, if he chose someone else, then he wasn't worth your time. This can be very hard to accept, i know all about it. You deserve better! Love can be hurtful, but, we always have other people there for us, even if we don't know it. We all have someone we click with, whether it be a therapist, someone on 7cups :), a friend, a family member or anyone. sometimes we haven't found that person yet, but they are out there... :) You need to search for them, because they are also searching for you!
TChyJ
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Jun 23, 2019
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Don’t worry about it. You are beautiful and smart. You’ll find someone else. I know you probably really loved him but trust me, if it was meant to be he would’ve stayed. I understand you’re probably upset but don’t get yourself worked up about it. Take sometime for yourself & pray about it. Everything will work out fine. You can always find someone better. There are lots of men out here that will treat you better than he ever did. They will cherish you & treat you like the queen you are. Like I said don’t worry about it. Time heals all. It might hurt for a little while but spend some time with your family , friends and you’ll be fine sweetie.
Anonymous
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Jun 27, 2019
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Love can be hard, and difficult. Sometimes some people say things before they think. You might have been perfect for him at one point, but he couldn't handle a relationship, with someone who's too good for him maybe? I am no one to advice you or tell you what too do, but I would always say that if you aren't good enough in his eyes, then they aren't good enough for you
StrawberryJamm
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Jul 7, 2019
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Despite what our culture tells us, realistically, there is no "perfect" person for anyone. The statement he made was flawed and inaccurate. Our ideal person is always subject to change, especially when we have had less experience dating. Yes, in the beginning, he thought you were exactly what he was looking for, but now it has changed, and that's completely normal. It may be because he didn't have an accurate perception of what you are like, or maybe through dating, his ideals changed. Either way, this says nothing about you and everything about him. You are beautiful exactly as you are and you deserve someone who loves you for that, and there definitely are people out there (however hard to find) who know, for certain that the real you is exactly who they want to be with.
tacobella4
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Jul 11, 2019
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Guys can be so confusing sometimes. I’m sorry he had to lead you on like that. If you were truly “perfect†for him, he wouldn’t have been an idiot and chosen someone else...and honestly I’ve been in a situation like this before. It’s the ultimate friend-zone. Sadly, there’s nothing we can do in situations like these except remember that self-worth is found within. You’re an amazing person and you will one day find a guy (or multiple guys) who TRULY thinks you’re the most perfect human on this planet! Until then, you have to remember that about yourself. Good luck girl! Keep your head high, you got this!! â¤ï¸âœ¨
Anonymous
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Jul 28, 2019
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people do say things in the moment, at the time he may have thought you were perfect and "the one" but, as you get to know eachother the love could have just faded, it's completely normal! you will always no matter what find someone who loves you unconditionally, there is always someone who loves your flaws and your insecurities, it may just take a short amount of time, or a while to find them! but when you do, it will all be worth it! there is love for everyone and everyone deserves to be loved! you will find someone who thinks you're perfect and choose nobody but you
creativeMist74
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Aug 3, 2019
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i am sorry honey!! you do NOT deserve that!! guys are weird sometimes and they may tell you something they know is not true. do not get to worked up about it. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT it’s his... you are beautiful, independent, amazing person that does not need a man to be happy ever!! he probably told you that you were perfect for him at the time because he really believed it and now he has possibly doubted himself and ran because he was not ready or something.. i am not sure what was the case... but don’t be sad it’s not your fault
Anonymous
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Aug 29, 2019
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His actions do not match his words, whoever he chose will soon learn this as well. Don't blame yourself that is his problem. Each of us has to learn contracts and accountability on our own. The important part here is that you do not take this personally as it has nothing to do with you this issue stems from someone else not seeing the importance of their words and lacking responsibility and empathy for leading people and failure to realize the expectations they lay out with no intention to fill. All of this is a responsibility, accountability problem. None of this had anything to do with you. All of us have the ability to speak, lots of us lack the sense of responsibility that comes with that power of influence. Also dont ever worry about being perfect for someone else, was he perfect for you? In going forward do not place so much value on another persons words, watch their actions trust how you feel about the situation seek truth in what feels perfect for you, also commend yourself and be proud of yourself for having a heart so big that it had room to make space for someone else even though they fell short on their promises.
Anonymous
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Oct 27, 2019
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I have been through something like that before. Boys can be extremely confusing and they really don’t make sense sometimes. They can say things and not mean them sometimes. Sometimes they can do things and realize that they made a mistake and then they try to make up for it but you can’t play with a girls heart. It can be very hard to understand why people do some things that they do and I can’t offer anything to help understand. In time it will become clear they he was not the one for you or he would not have done that to you.
Anonymous
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Nov 17, 2019
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Sometimes people communicate one thing and mean another. If this situation happens to you then the first thing to remember is that it's not your fault. Chances are that he saw so much perfection in you that he wanted someone as flawed as him. Just because you were said to be perfect for him, doesn't mean you can't be perfect for any other person out there! Don't let it get to you, take it as a compliment that you were too good for him.
It can be heartbreaking when you think he was 'the one' but it's easy to think that there is only one person for you when there are multiple who can be compatible with you. Take all the heartbreak as experience and learn what to not look for in a guy and vice versa.
CalVal
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Nov 21, 2019
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Life is full of unexpected things. Sometimes, things won't always go as smoothly as planned. Not every love will succeed, not every business will thrive, not everyone will live healthy, not everyone will stay the same.
I've been there too and it really hurts because I had so much expectations for both of us. Of course, in the end, we all need to take a deep breath and move on. Let it go. If someone's meant for you, they will be with you no matter how far they are from you, how much you fight and talk it out again. If someone isn't meant for you, no matter how sweet the dreams you both have, it will fly away.
I hope the best for you. Don't give up.
tranquility03
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Nov 27, 2019
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I understand. Dating and relationships can definitely be difficult. I can tell you even just from my own experiences, you are not alone. I remember a guy I dated who would tell me all the time how wonderful I was, only to find out that 2 other girls happened to be just as perfect, all at the same time. So he chose someone else. How does that make you feel? You are an amazing and wonderful soul who deserves the best. Sometimes it gets hard, but you are a very strong person. If you really think about it now, do you think he was "perfect" for you?
Anonymous
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Feb 2, 2020
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You just have to be patient and let go. Don't expect anything, you will be loved.You deserve it but you have to believe that.Do not keep any grudges against anyone, do not blame anyone, it is just the way it is, something better is coming your way and maybe his too. Do not keep your hopes up and wait for it, move on with your life and live it to the fullest with or without any significant other.It is very short, cherish every part of it.Maybe he was just a lesson, you must have learned something from it.Find it.Do not lose yourself.
Anonymous
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Mar 21, 2020
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Sometimes people change their minds or make different decisions. This doesn't mean that you aren't perfect. You are unique and special in your own way. Relationships don't always work out, but there is always hope for new adventures. Relationships take time and patience. You just have to believe in yourself and you can reach your goals. You can do anything that you set your mind too. Just remember that just because he said someone else was perfect, it does not mean that you are not perfect. Be positive and I am sure that you will find the answers that you seek.
UpwardOrange
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Jun 26, 2020
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The most important thing in life is change. Whether you acknowledge it or not, change is happening around you, non-stop. This means that the people you meet on your life journey will also be at varying stages on their own. Try not to be offended that they've chosen a different path for themselves because it will undoubtedly be for the best for you. The optimal thing to do is do your best to learn from the situation and try to grow from it. After some personal introspection, chances are you'll discover that you were already everything that you needed in your life.
enchantedlove
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Jul 1, 2020
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Okay, sometimes things like this happen! I know right now it may seem so very confusing to you, but I'm sure he's just as confused. Be might not know how or what to do with his feelings. Sometimes also things happen for example he might still think you're perfect for him but he might have also found somebody else he really loves too! This may be confusing to the both of you! Just remember, everything that happens in life happens for a reason so I'm sure this will end out perfectly okay? I wish you luck, love yas 💖
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