He said I was perfect for him, but he chose someone else?

This is one of the most difficult things to have to hear. Someone tells you one thing that gives you so much hope and then turns around and does the opposite and takes it away. Unfortunately this is a common occurrence. Oftentimes people will say things that sound good in the moment or will say things to diffuse tensions and avoid any sort of conflicts. The important lesson that can be learned from this is that people often will speak louder with their actions than their words. Remember always that your value is not determined by this person and that the idea of a perfect person is impossible to meet because it is so subjective.

Sometimes it is the right person, but the wrong time. Sometimes they are just not ready to be in a committed relationship with somebody that they know will last a long time. Either way, they decided that they were not ready for whatever reason. I know some people don't want to be with the person they feel is perfect for them because they are afraid of not being good enough for them. Not having enough money, relationship experience, life experience, a steady job, emotion control skills etc. Maybe they think they have some growing to do and don't want to risk completely ruining their chances at a serious relationship with you or maybe they have commitment issues.

It can be so hard when someone says something like that and then their actions don't match up with their words... leaving us with a lot of thoughts and then feelings to boot. I just know that there's not anything you can do to change his mind and although it hurts, feeling your feelings and going through the grieving process is key, at some point you'll come to acceptance, but keep in mind that there is no time line on these kind of things. Some days you might feel great, other days it might feel completely fresh and raw. But the beautiful thing in all of this is that you get to choose too in how you get through all of this. I just know, you've got this and will get through it, even if it doesn't feel like it right now.

I am sorry to hear that. It must be difficult to grasp that concept first of all, and I can't imagine how you may feel right now. It seems like whomever he chose was based on reasons in his mind he feels could be right for him, and sometimes it can even be an act on impulse. We are all so individually unique in what we do and why we choose to do things, sometimes they don't make sense. But what I can tell you now, is that you can't bring yourself down because you know your worth. And even knowing your worth can still make this challenging, heart-breaking and it's quite awful. You need to hang in there, keep your head up and think of the beautiful qualities you bring to the table. Do not compare what this other person might have. There is no one like you, you are so special, and there are so many people out there in the world that would be lucky to have you in their life and will be a better fit.

That means it is all just a lie. A relationship is beautiful because we make it like we can do anything for our partner. That we talk so nice, being romantic, and even do anything for the partner. You should know that it is a necessary thing in relationship. And you should know that he is not worthy your time. Show him that you can get better man than him. And that you are not on the same level as him and his new partner. That you are never lie about what you said in the relationship and that finally you can get someone who is way better than the guy

Sometimes people change, not always for the best. I am sorry you had to go through this i do not know what i would have done. But Hey keep your heads up, he doesn't know what he is missing out on. You seem like a wonderful person, and if he failed to realize then it's a loss for him. There are 7 billion people on this planet don't lose hope over one. I know it is easy to say "just forget about him he is not worth it.". But you should consider moving on, doing what is best for you.

Feelings change throughout a relationship but it's important to recognize that you don't need his acceptance to feel good about yourself. If he decided to move on, let him because there's probably something better out there for you. Don't close the doors on yourself because there's someone out there that is "perfect" for you. Move on and focus on yourself, this was probably an opportunity for both of you to realize you needed to be with different people. Love is beautiful and it's better to find the right person rather than settle down for the wrong person. Give it time and the answers you need will come with time.

I see how you might feel betrayed and this must really hurt you and make you feel distressed and sad. In times like these, it is important to focus on how this makes you feel and express it. Voicing your feelings and understanding that it is okay to feel sad or frustrated about this, it is natural. I believe this is crucial, accepting negative feelings as something normal and not pushing them away, has healing powers. And know that reaching out to people about how you feel is also very important, and not a 'weakness'. Being vulnerable is a strength so admirable!

You were falling in love with this guy, on for him to choose someone else over you. Perhaps he had recently been out of a breakup and he left you to get back with his ex and you realized that your relationship was just a rebound after all. No matter how hard it is, remind yourself that this is not a reflection of you, but rather his character. You were confident that things were moving forward and you were ready to commit to a serious relationship with this person. However, it is now clear that your feelings were unrequited and he didn’t feel the same way as you did. It is easy to start wondering about whether you were good enough for him or whether you will ever be good enough for someone

Oftentimes, when a guy dumps you unexpectedly, it's because something has been on his mind for a while and he didn't have the courage (or didn't know how) to bring it up. So even if he ended it and left and is with someone else, it doesn't mean there wasn't something specifically bothering him about the relationship or it's your fault it's just it wasnt meant to be and God has better plans for you and him. Just don't lose hope and be patient there is someone for every person in this world just trust yourself and be positive :)