He said I was perfect for him, but he chose someone else?

I'm really sorry to hear that this happened, I'm sure a lot of people have been in that position (I definitely have been). Sometimes, feelings can change, or they were never there in the first place. It is really hard to be on the receiving end of such a statement and then it not even be true. As he chose someone else, this could show that he isn't right for you, or perhaps even worth your time. We don't ever truly know what a person is thinking, and sometimes we do perhaps say or even force ourselves to think certain things due to many different factors, such as we want to make the other person happy, or that we love them so much even though they may not be right for us. Perhaps these thoughts entered his mind and as a result, he chose someone else, though of course we may never really know why he did what he chose to do.

There are a billion reasons this could happen. The important thing is that the issue isn't with you. He could be scared. He could have lied. He could have changed his mind. He could have been saying what he thought you wanted to hear. He might not be sure what/ who he wants. He might be one of those guys who tell every woman that so that he can score. He could be insecure with himself and not know how to treat people. None of those things are your fault. It hurts, and it's hard, but you now have the opportunity to learn from this and learn the things you want and don't want from your next relationship.

Sometimes it is better not to trust 100% what people say to you but to read people's actions and how they make you feel. Maybe it was not a conscious lie but something inside didn't resonate with you or he wanted to choose you but his unconscious mind decided something else. All those things can be felt if you listen carefully. For instance, how much attention he offers you, how much effort is he willing to do in order to see you or be with you, how respectful he is when both hav e disagreement. After you have evaluated those things you can know if you and him and meant to be.

I'm sorry that happened, you must feel very betrayed. Sometimes the perfect person for us at one time isn't the perfect person at another time. People grow and change, and our needs and compatibility with other people grow and change with us. You might have been perfect for him when he said this to you, but somewhere along the line, it's possible those needs and feelings changed for him. It's important to take care of yourself and re-affirm your self-worth during this time. You might be feeling rejected and alone, or feeling the need to isolate yourself. I recommend the 7 Cups Breakup Guide: https://www.7cups.com/breakup-advice/

It has happened to me to be on both sides, it hurts, sometimes it hurts so much that the heart feels empty, but all the occasions have given me knowledge ... Maybe at the beginning one builds certain ideas and with certain hours or months, the perspective changes, because when I began to know more about another person then I adjusted my expectations. Healing is a multi-causal process, and our approach is adjusted, it is said that there is an "addiction to dopamine", that well-being that we feel with falling in love with the different degrees of love. For me, it helped me learn to love gradually, not so fast and not so slow. In addition, love puts a lot "in game", sometimes life seems empty with the rejection of someone, but honesty is always something that helps us, to avoid continuing to bet on "a seed" that is no longer going to work.. Not everyone will like us and each one of us has special learning and life wisdom. The range of intensities of an emotion changes and adjusts according to the panorama we decide to view. May the Serenity and harmony continue in your breathing and in your path.

I am sorry to hear that. That must be hurtful for you, particularly if you believed your feelings for one another were mutual. Often times, individuals mean what they say in the present moment, such as expressing deep feelings for you, which would make anyone feel really good. However, if a relationship is still in its early stages, it can be difficult to rely fully on the prediction of a new relationship and how the other person may react to you. If a person genuinely wants to be in your life in an intimate way, they will show you by their actions. If their actions do not confirm that they want to be in a relationship with you, it's ok! It may be disappointing at first, but at least now you know you can move on to date new people and enjoy new adventures that may lead you to the relationship you want.

I'm really sorry that people have to go through this. That guy is missing out on the greatest person in the world, and that's truly his loss. I know things are hard right now, but it will get better. You can get through this and I know for certain that you will. I'm sure You have wonderful and caring friends who would drop everything to help you, and a great family to support you. This is just a bump in the road. After this is over, you will come out so much stronger and more confident. I know you're feeling a lot of emotions right now, from confused, to hurt, to angry and just plain sad. And all those emotions are ok to feel. Don't feel like you have to bottle them up. If you need to cry, cry. If you need to scream, do it. I'm sure you're a beautiful, kind, strong, smart and caring person. Whoever is missing out on that is crazy. He made this decision himself and maybe even later he'll regret it. Don't let this guy take your shine!

people say things they mean in the moment, but then change and make different decisions. I’ve had a similar thing happen to me, a S/O told me they loved me and then proceeded to distance them self and eventually break things off with me. I was heart broken afterwards. It made me feel unworthy and not good enough. I thought, “what is wrong with me?” I spent quite a while of time feeling worthless and moping around. But then I thought, why am I letting this silly person stop me from being happy? Why was I letting them affect me like this? I didn’t need them. I do not need them at all. I don’t need their validation to feel good. I decided at that point that there was nothing wrong with me, that it was their loss for choosing someone else. They’re missing out!

Although he said that you were perfect for him, it does not necessarily translate to he wants to be with you. For example, a person may think a dress looks very nice, but that person may not buy it because they are aware that it would not look good on them. He may be aware that you are a good partner and a good influence on him, but he is more attracted to someone else. On the other hand, he could also be dishonest when he told you that you were perfect for him. He may have said that, but his actions said otherwise.

In relationships, people have strong emotions, they may feel like in that time the relationship works, and then may find they did not know what they want or that the new person they found is not what they are looking for. It is difficult when people say such strong phrases because life changes and i can see how it would feel disheartening, but it has nothing to do with you. It has to do with people figuring out what they really want, and they don't always know that or may make the wrong decisions later as well. So, this means that relationships are about spending time together and figuring out, hey how do we work. If you find it does not work, it does not mean you have failed or there is anything wrong with who you are. It just means that you have learned what both of you really want and need and that is a learning lesson to take with you.