He said I was perfect for him, but he chose someone else?

Some people change their opinions overtime. Think about an iphone. Some want the latest version even though they bought an earlier version that felt "perfect". More importantly, there is no such as perfect. Relationships need two people to grow together, for some they just have a different set of values. The good news is, him choosing someone else, says alot about what he values. This isn't about you not being "perfect", its about his reality in his head, that is not on you. No one is perfect, but finding someone who loves to be with you, that's more meaningful than mere words.

Sometimes people change their minds. It can be over a short or long period of time. I had the same thing happen to me a few times and it was upsetting, but I told myself that I was better than him and how i'd find someone better.

You are perfect in your own way and nobody can take thataway from you. You are very unique and beautiful.

I am so sorry to hear that he has chosen another. This must be very challenging to come to grips with him saying such beautiful words but then his actions say something else. I am glad that you came to 7Cups to share this with me. How have you been processing this since you first found out?

Maybe at the time he did think you were perfect for him, but later realized that tit wasn't the case.

Many times in life people say things to get what they want. That may have been a time when it was said and I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. His interests may have changed or maybe he’s just not the right guy for you!

I has less to do with you and more to do with him. Probably he didn't know himself enough to keep exactly what he wanted, maybe he was just a coward, we can speculate a lot but that's not what is important. The important thing is that you dodged the bullet. You wouldn't want to be caught up in a relationship with someone who is confused or who tells you just what he imagines you want to hear and later his actions to be totally the opposite. This inconsistency between words and actions is a very big red flag about someone's character. You are lucky

I've learned people change minds often but you are perfect. Don't let him define you. I understand what its like for someone to betray you. It can feel lonely.

Perfection doesn’t mean the complete perfection sometimes we like things about the person but most of time we hate other things which doesn’t fit the partener’s Personality.

Sometimes it happens, maybe he wasn't the right person and it's totally nor related to your personality