He said I was perfect for him, but he chose someone else?

You never know what's in the heart of someone... people make promises in the moment and forget about it after sometimes.. but you couldn't depend on someone's words.. you need to see their actions too.. because actions speak louder than words.. and if he has chosen someone else.. then he was never sincere and actually he doesn't deserve you. He is not perfect for you. Try to move on from someone who was never sincere with you.. and try to focus on yourself.. your dignity is more important than him and his choice.

Babe, you deserve way better than him. NO girl, and I mean NO girl deserves a guy who chooses someone else over you, especially when he chose you first. Maybe it wasn't meant to be or maybe he just didn't care. But you HAVE to move on love. You'll find your guy and when you find him, every thing will be worth it. But you have to move on. It'll hurt so much. I won't deny that. But I'm positive that you can and you will. You're so strong baby. If you ever want to talk, I'm always here for you. -Nikki

In a lot of cases people don't know what they want all the time. Maybe you were perfect because you filled a need he was missing, and once that need was filled he found someone else that filled a different need. So it's not that you aren't good enough, it's that he's missing something in his life that no one can fill for him.

He realized he wasn't perfect for you, that he will never match up to be the person you deserve to be with. He knows himself and realized that someone with an amazing heart like yours needs someone to mirror it. He would have been an barrier from letting you find that person that truly deserves you. It may sound unrealistic, but this is his gift to you - to find your unfulfilled potential that you wouldn't have been able to with him.

In the moment he probably meant it and truly believed in this, but sometimes things change and people change and there isn't anything we can do.

I'm so sorry to hear that someone you put your trust in has done that to you. It's hard to rationalise someone's motives when this happens to you so go easy on yourself and remember, the issue is his and not yours at this stage. When this happened to me I compared myself exhaustively to this other person, deeming them better than me and criticising myself non-stop, making sure I felt so worthless by the end of it that I could barely face getting up every morning. But this meant the only person that was being punished for something I could do nothing about was me. So be kind to you, you deserve to be with someone who says you are perfect for them and shows it in their actions too, and that's not what this person could offer you, so actually they weren't perfect for you! In time, as you get strong again, you will be able to look back at this experience and maybe even learn a few things to help you in future relationships, but for now just remember not to take responsibility for anything that's not in your control, recognise the amazing value of you and be kind to yourself!

Many guys tend to be like this, in experience it's not easy to deal with a situation like this and tends to have quite a negative effect on how you see yourself. When a guy says "You're perfect for me" or "You're perfect to me" sometimes its just his way of keeping you until he's over whatever it is that you have together. It may give you a different perspective and make you think that all guys are the same etc, but in reality they aren't and there is someone out there making stupid memories that you'll hear about years from now and you'll think about everything you had gone through to get to that person in your life and laugh about it because you finally found someone who makes you happy and actually appreciates and values your worth.

I wish I could tell you this will be the last time this happens, but the truth is people do this kind of stuff. All the time. And from personal experiences I could tell you, that you've got 2 options. You could stay at home being all sad, wondering what happened and thinking how yesterday you were perfect, but now you're not and someone else is...Or you could stay home and imagine what his face will be when he finds out that it was you, the one who was actually perfect for him. I bet some other guy will know how to treat you better than he did and he'll think you're perfect and actually mean it. I'm telling you for sure, this kind of things don't take place just in movies.

You may have been perfect for him but maybe the relationship you had with each other, wasn't. It's not uncommon for love or a strong connection to not be enough to keep people together. Look back at your time together, was it really as good as you think now, in the wake of a break up and broken heart? You may find upon examination that actually, many aspects of the relationship didn't suit you either.

He's not worth your time. Sometimes people don't realize how their actions may hurt other people and their wording isn't credible.