Do I miss the person, or the relationship?

We tend to miss the "memories" of whatever made us most happy. Sometimes its the idea of a relationship that's more appealing and missed rather than the person we were with. At the end of the day, we are all humans and crave companionship

I miss the person. My best friend is gone. The one I think about and what to talk to when I see something funny, sad, interesting is gone. The feeling in my stomach when I remember we aren't talking anymore is cringy. Yes, I miss the person.

You can miss both. Sorting out your feelings about that can help you move forward, as you try to identify if you're looking for a person with a certain set of traits, or a relationship that has some of the same boundaries, habits, and communication styles. It can be important to realize that finding a person with similar traits won't necessarily bring the same kind of relationship, and starting a new relationship with the same kind of boundaries won't necessarily mean the other person is similar to your ex.

It is very conman in situations like yours that you miss both, and these can get mixed you can end up missing both, I bet you miss both the relationship and the person.

In my case, a bit of both but mostly the relationship. I miss the companionship and the reliability, which are essentially because of the person. So it's kind of interdependent I guess.

I've personally asked myself that exact question more than once, and my conclusion is that you need to stay away from that person for some time (even when it's difficult, I know). I didn't want to do it but my ex had to go on a trip, and then I discovered that I didn't actually desperately miss him, it was just the same as if a friend had gone to another country for some days. Distance is key. If you still want to be with that person after at least three weeks, then it's the person the one you are missing. If you just wanted to have a relationship, you will discover during that time that you are ok without anyone.

Sometimes we remember the way people affected us and not the people themselves. We miss the way we felt and the people we became when we were with them.

It's possible to miss both. Often we miss what we had, back when things were good and we were happy. Remember why it didn't work, and remind yourself that you're better off.

Honestly, probably a bit of both. But think of the stuff you've went through and if you think its something you can fix, you can give it a try. But be very brutally honest with yourself, You don't want to hurt yourself. Look at the relationship like a puzzle, and every time you go on a break, the person hurts you, etc., you loose a piece of the puzzle. Eventually you've lost so many pieces and you've tried so hard to still find the finished image but its already to broken to fix. The finished picture will never be the same, no matter how hard you try, ya know?

This is something you really need to reflect on and figure out for yourself, but often times it is the relationship we miss more than the actual person. Think about what you miss exactly: is it things like their smile, the way they were to you, etc., or going on dates, kissing, and other relationship type things.