Do I miss the person, or the relationship?

The answer could be, both. This is dependent on the type of relationship you had with that other individual and the type of person they were. You could miss the individual for the type of person they were, which may have made you feel a range of emotions. You could miss them for the way they made you feel. But most of the time relationships provide a sense of comfort and security, which you may miss once you're out of the relationship. This environment may have made you feel safe because you were comfortable with the environment. This environment changes once you're out of the relationship because you're forced to adapt to a different environment.

Try to think about it concretely and realistically. Would any other person be fine, if it was the same situation? Or do you want that person specifically? Even knowing it won't ever be the same? Sometimes you just need some time to clear up your mind about these things. If you have the possibility to, talk to the person you have in mind. How does it make you feel? If you realize that there isn't much attraction whatsoever, or even that they get on your nerves, you miss the relationship. Remember also that, there's a reason why you've broken up. You really need to keep that in mind when you miss someone. We often can't imagine a better person than what we just had, but there will always come someone that loves you a bit more. People change as well, consider that you might miss the memory of the person you were together with. I hope this helped!

This is a great question. Most times it is the latter option because of the memories, good times, and routines that you and this person created together. However, many people do find they miss the person that was in the happy memories or the person before the breakup. A good way to figure out which one you're missing ask yourself what you remember most about this. It may seem counterintuitive at first, but if experiences come to mind rather than character traits or very specific memories then it's most likely you miss the experience that a relationship brought you. Because while you can recreate experiences, you can't recreate a person or mimic them.

I think that this a problem that most people struggle with after having a special relationship with someone- I for one definitely did. However, there is no right or wrong way to figure this out. I can, however, say that what worked for me quite well was to sit down and write out the things that I were missing. And then I looked at each, really thought about it and determined whether it was the person or the relationship. In the end, looking at my two columns I had made, it was easier to determine which I wanted. Of course, I also did this when I was in different states of mind and it was interesting to see how much my opinion and understanding of each option changed. It's very important to keep in mind that our moods have a great influence on the way we think and rationalize things.

It can be both, or a singular one of these. I know in my past I had been in a relationship and after it ended, I found myself missing the small things that made the relationship, having someone there and being able to share news and sadness with this person. It wasn't quite the person, but the situation. However, it isn't uncommon to miss a person, the way they laugh or smile or just them being there. I think it depends on your own experience and feelings, you know yourself the best and it might take time to realise what you miss, but do not judge yourself for missing something right now. You are grieving what has been lost and that is more than ok. Take time to care for yourself and build that happiness of being alone back up.

It can go either way depending on the situation and how long you have known each other. When missing the person you genially miss being around them, having fun with them, all the laugh you two might have experienced together and everything else. It's normal for you to miss them being the go to person when something great happens in your life or for you to want to go to them when something not so great might happen in your life. When missing the relationship you miss being loved. Maybe their type of love towards you wasn't like anybody else's type of love towards you. Maybe you even felt as though that caring affection only was there when they would show it. You know you miss the relationship rather then the person when you can get that same type of affection from someone else and then you start to like them. That would mean that you miss the relationship more than the person because It wouldn't matter who is doing it as long as someone is doing it or giving you affection.

I miss the person who I care about, not what I remember as a relationship since circumstances may have changed to alter that. It is the person that is most valuable to me. A person is very specific and important. They have their own thoughts and assumptions which are very much part of their personality. It is this that makes the person unique and wonderful. Of course this is what love stories and novels are all about, the character and makeup of an individual which is endlessly interesting to read about. Then there are questions of nature vs nurture in the formulation of an individual and their personality. A person is very special and can be a friend and supporter. This is very important to us all and makes us social animals.

A relationship comes along with a lot of promises , aspirations and a lot of attachments in the form of memories . whenever a person commits to a single relationship , there is a constant work involved and often we try our best to eternalise the relationship . Alas ! often , we have breakups due to numerous reasons , and most of the times breakups are for good and betterment of both the parties involved , but after a breakup , we see ourselves stuck whether in the person ,majority of the times its the shared memories and most importantly the good memories, we miss that and yearn for that . so you miss neither the person ,nor the relationship but the shared good times .

It can be hard. You do miss the person, you want to go back. You want things to go back to normal, because as humans we like normal. We dont like change in our lives but sometimes change can be good. Sometimes change shows us the reality. We cant live all our lives with toxic people and we have to move forward in our lives. But that can be hard, out of 10 months, maybe 3 months were positive but we would always just think about the positive and not the negative. We miss this person even though we know they werent any good for us.

You miss the relationship. The reason the relationship ended was due to the people you and the person became. From previous experience, trying to go back to a relationship that ended isn’t always the best given the stressors that occurred in the termination of the relationship. The stressors can give insecurities and will always give the sense that the relationship will end again. Also, in the beginning of relationships people try to impress and show their best selves forward to get you to like them but people go through experiences and meet others that make them adapt and their personality can differ given the situations.