Do I miss the person, or the relationship?

Depends. If you really miss that person, you won't be able to forget all of the good things they've done to you. And how they changed you. But if you miss the relationship, you'll look at your memorable photos while remembering how you felt back then. Beside, relationships getting into an end is normal. Probably you want them to come back. But if you really love that person to the point you miss them a lot, you will do more than that. There are two choices: you either smile whenever you see them or hear their name while hoping for the best for them. Or you won't back down and you'll try to make them know how much they mean to you.

It depends on what you had in your relationship prior to the breakup. If he/she was a great person, it is very possible and very likely you miss the person being around you all the time and loving on you all the time. On the same token, if you were satisfied in the relationship and it truly made you happy, you could be missing that type of relationship with the person. There are some situations though where you miss both the person and the relationship. It just really depends on how happy you were in the relationship then you can narrow it down.

While unraveling the end of a relationship, what you might find out is that you neither miss the person nor the relationship, but the presence itself. From personal experience, I've witnessed people simply ending one relationship and instantly jumping into another. Why does this sort of pattern occurs? Because for someone who's afraid to deal with this lack of presence, the need to have someone who can automatically fill this empty space appears. Nevertheless, we all know that from a conscious viewpoint, this is a behavior that is only meant to support an illusion based on the fear that others are the ones who can only fill the emptiness in our lives, plus delaying the resolution in which that space we always run away from by disguising it through someone else's presence is the space that is waiting to be filled by the love you give yourself. This is the heart of conscious presence and self-love.

Could be a little bit of both. It could just be the familiarity of the person or the situation that you miss.

Many a times I feel that we miss the idea of being in a relationship more than we miss the actual person or the relationship itself. Because we've identified ourselves through that relationship for a while when we go through a break up we feel as though part of our identity is gone and that is often what we miss. As well as that the people we surrounded ourselves with who are in a relationship often make us remember our past relationship and if they are happy it makes us miss the relationship we had rather than the person.

It depends on the individual. Some people miss both and that is definitely normal, however, what most people really miss is the feeling of the relationship. In my personal experience, the person wasn't a good person, so I didn't directly miss them. I missed the feeling of being wanted by a person in that way. In the beginning, it can be foggy because you really do miss the person, but as you start to heal you discover that they aren't the thing you miss most. Healing can be a long process but it will make you a stronger person in the end!

It honestly depends. I've been in a situation like this and it really does depend. You have to ask yourself did I miss the feeling of being loved and cared for or do I miss the person that was doing it? Do I miss the memories or do I miss the person I was making memories with? Can you image yourself reliving them with someone else and for it to not hurt that much or can you not move on from the memory of them? Once you figure that out you'll have a better way to either get into a healthier and new relationship because you know that's what you want, or you'll finally allow yourself to move on because now you have your answer and you are finally getting some closure. :)

This is such a hard one because often times we can’t distinguish between the two. Sometimes people are codependent and rely on having a partner too much. Sometimes people place to much value into other people instead of themselves. This happens when people validate their existence based on whether or not they have a partner. It’s natural to mourn a relationship once it is over. Some questions to ask yourself: Do I think about missing out on the potential future I had with this person? What did this person provide to me that I am unable or unwilling to provide to myself? Do I need a partner to feel validated? Answering these questions can shed some light onto the situation and assist you with processing your thoughts regarding what you miss. Of course there are other important questions to ask yourself as well, but this is a good start. Keep in mind that surviving a breakup requires time. You have to endure the mourning process of what once was and what could have been, and then prepare yourself for a new chapter in your life without that person/relationship. Keep your head up. You’ve got this!!!

From my own experience you miss the relationship. Even if it was a bad one with maybe a person who wasn't right for you in anyway there was still good times that you want to hold on to. I missed the relationship, those moments of feeling happy and loved. When I think back on the relationship, I miss the relationship itself and the things that came with that. When I think about the person I just feel angry and hurt. It really depends on the relationship and one what terms it ended. But based on my past relationships and what I've seen others experience, you usually miss the person.

Could be both! Depends on how your experience with the relationship was. If you miss being praised and held then you miss all the things that came from being in the relationship. If you miss being praised and held from the specific person, then you miss the person. If the significant other mistreated you, you still can miss the person very much so. It's normal to miss being in a relationship especially if you don't expect to be in another one anytime soon. It is a massive change in your life and lifestyle. After becoming adapted to the specific lifestyle and having it unexpected change, the feeling of being in a relationship can be missed as well as the person.