Do I miss the person, or the relationship?

Most likely the relationship. I was broken up with four months ago and still cry over my ex. However, he was controlling, manipulative, and completely wrong for me. We fought all the time and only were happy sometimes. Why would I miss him? I'm realizing I don't. I only miss having someone to talk to all the time and do cute things with, not necessarily my ex.

I miss the opportunity of not being able to put into practice what I learned after analyzing what happened.

There is a reason why the relationship ended, unless it is death then it's because the person was not suitable for whatever reason, chances are you miss the relationship as you built memories together, enjoyed going to places together, maybe had children together, all sorts of good things, when a relationship has ended and we find ourselves alone it's easy to focus on the good memories you built together and forget about the bad memories that broke the relationship down, this is probably because we feel lonely, unloved and very much single. Try to keep your focus on the reasons why your relationship broke down as well as think of your good memories together. This is how we can end up going back to the relationship over and over again and always coming back to the same outcome of splitting up. The relationship is/was toxic yet we cling onto the good memories that have been built.

One thing to consider is this; if someone new was readily available to give you everything that the previous person gave you in your relationship, would you still continue to feel sad about the previous person? If the answer is yes, then you miss them specifically. But if the answer is no, then you miss the relationship. Give it time and these feelings will fade.

Depends on the situation. Sometimes we miss the person they used to be or the potential that the relationship had.

I understand what you're getting at and in most cases, it's the relationship. Think of everything you miss and think of the context your thoughts are in. Nine times out of ten, it will go something like this; I miss the hugs, I miss watching T.V together, I miss going out to dinner etc. Notice how none of these include him/her? That's a sign that you miss the relationship. If you miss the person, your thoughts would go along the lines of; I miss his/her hugs, I miss watching T.V with her/him, I miss going out to dinner with her/him. If you find that you're missing the person, think about why the relationship ended and remember that. Always remember this motto: "Ex's are ex's for a reason."

People change; either their minds or just the way they are and often, that's the cause of breakups. We tend to miss the relationship; the times shared, the feelings that were there. You miss what you once were with them. You don't necessarily miss the person and what they've become. Normally, we miss the person we knew; the person that was once in love with us

I think that the way you can tell as to whether you miss the person or the relationship. Is if you would still like to be friends with them after your relationship as ended, and don't mind to not have anything more than a platonic relationship with them. Then I'd say that would be missing the person. Whereas, if you would not like to be friends with them at all, and only want to be in a romantic/sexual/or otherwise relationship, then I'd say that would be missing the relationship.

Only you really know that answer, and maybe the answer isn't yet clear. Some people touch our lives in a way that deeply affect us, and other times, we miss what we had with them

Do you miss the person? Do you miss said persons way of laughing or his/hers eyecolour? Do you miss how he talked to other people, how she made you feel better about yourself. Maybe this is the kindest person you've met and you may miss it. But, do you miss the relationship? Do you miss spending time with this person, playing games together, going out at night laughing together. These might seem the same but they're not. missing a person for who they are is not the same as missing the time you spent together. And this is how i see a difference.