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Can or should I ask my significant other to stop talking and to not associate with his ex? If so, how?

Profile: ppigeokppigeok
ppigeokppigeok on Apr 14, 2018
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Once I had a boyfriend who didn't allow me to keep in touch with my ex (with whom I have a very good friend relationship), but I never told him to stop talking to his former girlfriends. I would say that, unless your significant other's ex had a very toxic behavior, you shouldn't ask him/her to end a healthy friendship with his/her ex
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Profile: Greatlistener87
Greatlistener87 on Jul 15, 2016
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yes you can tell ur partner to stop connecting too much with his ex, but u will need to explain to your partner as to why u would want him to do so. Let your partner know why u think so and how it makes u feel.
Profile: simplisticmoon
simplisticmoon on Jul 16, 2016
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if you are uncomfortable or feel that the relationship could be jeopardized in any way, you have the right to ask them. Tell them you feel uncomfortable and if they love you, they will understand.
Profile: uniquecreature41
uniquecreature41 on Nov 18, 2016
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You most certainly can if your partner has an ex that is still in their life and it makes you uncomfortable. Yes, they can be friends with their ex but ask yourself what it is that makes you uncomfortable about their continued association. If there are extenuating circumstances, such as illness or they are in some sort of trouble then it might be that they get in touch and in some cases that can be reasonable. But If you feel they are constantly flashing up on your partners phone, just for a chat or whatever, ask them why they think it's ok that they do this. And be clear about why you feel uncomfortable. If your partners ex is breaching the boundaries of your relationship then they are disrespecting you and your partner is also, in allowing this. Don't feel shy about a situation which would make most people unhappy and be clear with your partner about how this makes you feel. But it's also worth reminding yourself that just because you feel uncomfortable in this situation that doesn't automatically make you a crazy jealous person. If you can respect someone else's relationship then your should be respected in return.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 30, 2016
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Tell them you love them a lot and you love them so much it makes you jealous to see them talking to their old girldriend/boyfriend and you want them to be devoted to you. Say it in a cute sexy way. Or just tell them upfront about it showing your sincere feelings.
Profile: blindMelon21
blindMelon21 on Apr 8, 2018
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That's so hard to tell. I think you have to find the root. Maybe your partner has an emotional problem with that, like hidden or unshown emotions, or unsolved issues, like being abused by his/her ex. I mean you can't fight him/her at first, maybe there is another solution to this. But be careful, if there are any significant pieces of evidence that she/he is going to cheat on you, dump you, or she has serious feelings for her/his ex. I can explain this more if it's needed. Take care...
Profile: Melissame
Melissame on May 26, 2018
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Before you make any decision, talk to your partner about how this makes you feel and discuss it from there. What are your reasons for not being ok with it? How exactly do you feel? Make sure you have the answers beforehand. He may become cross so make sure to do it in a way where you are both calm, sit him down and talk calmly. Instead of saying 'dont talk to your ex' try 'when you speak to your ex i feel .........'
Profile: wonderousSugar31
wonderousSugar31 on Jul 22, 2016
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What you want to say to your partner is ultimately upto yourself, however if they broke up in friendly terms they may want to continue a friendship.
Profile: Jerm3
Jerm3 on Jul 16, 2016
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I think it depends on how long ago this ex was. If this was 10 years ago and they chat sometimes, it's probably okay. People can still be friends and not have feelings for each other. You can ask him to not associate with her. Just let him know how you feel about it and see how he reacts.
Profile: Naicoro
Naicoro on Aug 25, 2016
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it depends , if you think that there might be even the slightest danger in their connection you should tell him that it bothers and he should stop .
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