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Can or should I ask my significant other to stop talking and to not associate with his ex? If so, how?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 18, 2018
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You totally can~ Most people do not communicate with their ex and you can always talk to your partner about this. This requires honest conversation where both of you are understanding and open about each other's opinions.
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Profile: Allears247
Allears247 on Jul 25, 2018
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It depends on the situation. Does he share a child with his ex? If so, it would be illogical and unreasonable to expect him to stop communicating with his ex.
Profile: felixthecat
felixthecat on Jul 25, 2018
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If I felt this way about my significant other, I would have a serious conversation with them about how I feel and why.
Profile: aylin45353
aylin45353 on Jul 25, 2018
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I feel like that's not a fair thing to ask of someone. If he's on good terms with his ex and he isn't cheating on you, I don't see anything wrong with it. Relationships are all about trust. He is his own person and can therefore decide if he can safely talk to his ex without anything going wrong.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 26, 2018
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While it is not okay to forbid your partner from talking to anyone, you should certainly talk to them if what they are doing is making you uncomfortable. For example, instead of saying, “I hate it that you still talk to your ex, you need to cut them off” You could say, “It makes me really uncomfortable that you’re still talking to your ex.” To begin a conversation about it.
Profile: amazingIcicle69
amazingIcicle69 on Aug 6, 2018
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If you have no reason to be worried you shouldn't. You should make him feel like you trust him. But if in need just be honest. Share yout worries and you hopes and work on them together as a team.
Profile: Electricityscvpe
Electricityscvpe on Aug 15, 2018
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Yeah, you should talk with him/her about how uncomfortable makes you feel that he/she talk about his ex.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 8, 2018
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Could but depending on your relationship it might come off as clingy and nobody one-sided relationship you should go get help and see what they’re talking about if it’s flirting or an affair you should totally break up with him in immediately but if it’s just being friendly maybe you should let them be if you really feel like it’s more than just friends you should talk to your significant other immediately about this issue Hood but depending on your relationship it might come off as clingy and nobody one-sided relationship you should go get help and see what they’re talking about if it’s flirting or an affair you should totally break up with him in immediately but if it’s just being friendly maybe you should let them be if you really feel like it’s more than just friends you should talk to your significant other immediately about this issue it Could go Two different ways, Coming off as clingy or your significant other might understand and Respect your decisions. If he doesn’t listen to you then maybe you should go to relationship ship therapy for couples counseling possibly could work out for the good or bad
Profile: shiningHeart10
shiningHeart10 on Sep 21, 2018
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If you do not feel comfortable with your significant other keeping in touch with hi/her ex then you should ask that they sever contact. Because relationships are all about compromise. The best way to do it is by asking. Just be direct and ask that they stop talking to their ex. You can express your discomfort with the situation and let them know how much better you would feel if they did stop talking to their ex. This may seem difficult to do but it can and should be done if it would make you feel secure in that relationship.
Profile: Dtro18
Dtro18 on Sep 26, 2018
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In relationships, it is rarely appropriate to ask someone to do or not do something as significant as ceasing communication with their ex. It is ultimately a decision he must make himself. What you can do is express how his association with his ex makes YOU feel, how you feel it is detrimental to you. Your first step should be to ask: are you doing this for his or your benefit? Are your motivations unselfish or selfish? Asking such things as large as this rarely come with no strings. They are sacrifices and not to be taken lightly. I suggest you really examine your own intentions, and if they are pure, then start thing about sitting him down and having a productive conversation with him.
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