After an unhealthy relationship ends, how do you remember what healthy ones are meant to even be like?

being comfortable with each other and not being insecure.

Healthy ones who never physically and mentally drain you. Though you may have disagreements it should never take away from your self esteem. It should be a mutual and supportive growth between both individuals.

Identify the characteristics you did not appreciate in the unhealthy relationship. What are some of the things you didn't appreciate. For example) disrespect, impoliteness, malicious behavior, aggression. It is also important for me to acknowledge when it is actually okay to able okay to trust and confide with another person although it isn't always easy to distinguish.

It takes time and finding the right person, but eventually you will remember. I was emotionally destroyed by a couple of different guys, by getting cheated on, lied to, etc. I never thought I could ever have a healthy, stable relationship. After a few years of waiting and recovering from my past relationships (not completely, but enough), I fell in love with my best friend. I've been with him for the past 8 months, best friends for over 5 years. These past 8 months has been a constant learning process as we build our relationship stronger and stronger. It's hard, especially to get used to someone who does love you for you, but you will remember what a healthy relationship is like. It's all about love, trust, and support.

Think about what you didn't have in the other relationship and what you wanted from it. If you were left wanting respect, be sure you get it in your next relationship. If you didn't have enough time to yourself, try asking your next partner to give you space sometimes.

Once you go through a relationship that really challenges you and makes you feel a lot of pain, you begin to reflect upon what kind of relationship would make a healthy relationship. Then you could look for those features and characteristics in the future in a relationship

You do the exact opposite of what you had already went threw. You could go speak to someone, or ask someone for help.

I wouldn't recommend jumping into a relationship right away. Often, people (including me) feel that romantic relationships are somehow inherently better or more nurturing than other relationships, which is just not true. Spend some time with friends; observe how much effort they put in versus how much effort you put in. If you have friends in relationships, ask them about their opinion of what a healthy relationship is! Most importantly, know that romantic relationships are not the most important thing in your life. Good luck!

Take a moment to just take a few deep breaths, now list everything you wish in an ideal partner, and imagine a relationship that you would truly be happy with, one that allows you to grow and express who you are. That's how it should be, and don't settle for anything less

Think about the things that made your relationship unhealthy and about the things that you think that are needed to have an healthy one