Why do I get anxious when my boyfriend goes out?
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Moderated by Smita Joshi, BA Psychology / MA / Advanced EFT Practitioner
Updated: Nov 28, 2023
BreatheAlways
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Dec 10, 2015
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You may struggle with feelings of abandonment and loneliness when your very important partner is not around. You may also feel worried that they are having more fun without you, or maybe you'd actually like to be out with them and feel left out. It's important to evaluate your thinking when you are experiencing anxiety; are you thinking rationally, or are your thoughts driven by negative self assertions? It can help to discuss your anxious feelings with your boyfriend, so he can better understand your worries and hopefully you can come to a place of understanding and peace. Relationships require open communication!
Anonymous
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Nov 10, 2017
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From my last experience wasn't pleasant he will
Come 2 am and with out answering the phone . Mayde me insecure . Is something I struggle and I hope we can help all each other .
EmmyRose
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Jul 14, 2015
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It might be because you don't trust him. But maybe it is because someone else you trusted broke your trust as well. But you shouldn't worry, if he says he loves you then he will just go out and have a good time and come back and say that he loves you again.
Anonymous
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Jan 8, 2016
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I believe that the root of my anxiety comes from something that happened in my childhood. My parents were always separated, so it gave me a negative view on love and relationships. Now that I've found someone I actually deeply care about, I get anxious about losing him, over the most smallest things. What I tell myself is to remember that he is with me for a reason, and will support me and help with my anxiety. So try to remind yourself of the things he does for you, what he does to show he cares, and feel at ease knowing you have someone you can trust and love.
forthelonghaul
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Feb 8, 2016
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Personal fears. It's something a lot of girls struggle with too- so don't feel alone. The best thing to do is know that these are your own fears and insecurities and acting on them could get you in hot water. Recognizing this too can help you better understand yourself and why you fear those things. From that you can try fostering better trust between you two while not giving into fears and insecurities.
naturalPalm52
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Jan 9, 2016
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If you get anxious when your boyfriend goes out, it may be because there are some underlying trust issues in the relationship. You feel that because you are not close to him, you cannot control his behavior when he is out. If he is really a trustworthy person, then this may stem from somewhere inside of you; have you been hurt in the past? Where do you think these trust issues come from?
Sevenwishes
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Dec 16, 2015
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This may be because you want to know where he is and make sure he is doing nothing to hurt you. Tell your boyfriend how our feel and then he could try and text u every so often to let u know where he is.
Hazikk
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Apr 21, 2016
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Its posessiveness that makes you anxious. Be asvised that right amount of posessiveness is important but too much of it might ruin the relationship. Relax and have faith in him and your relationship.
Anonymous
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Sep 12, 2018
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Maybe you are attached to him and you are scared to lose him. You might trust him but maybe you don’t trust other girls. I personally do not. You could also get anxious because you are genuinely worried about him. You could be worried about his safety. I always worry about him finding someone that is better than I am. Someone that is prettier or skinnier than me. This is very unhealthy though. You need to know that you are good enough for the right guy. If they leave you, they weren’t yours to begin with. If it’s meant to be it will be.
Anonymous
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Apr 2, 2016
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You get anxious when your boyfriend goes out because you're worried he's cheating, or that you aren't good enough and he'll find someone better. But don't be anxious, you are good enough and I'm sure he loves you like you love him.
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