Why do I get anxious when my boyfriend goes out?
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Kryssy88
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Jan 2, 2016
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Thinking about when I would be anxious about my boyfriend going out with his friends I realized I was in fear for my relationship. He may find someone prettier, thinner, or more exciting than I am. Is that something you may be feeling aswell?
GorgeousMess88
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Apr 14, 2016
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I get nervous when he goes out because I'm scared he is with someone else. I'm afraid he will talk to other girls or he will talk to his friends about mine and his relationship and his friends will influence him to leave me or find someone else
Becca0926
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Jul 27, 2015
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From my experiences, it is due to some insecurity within you. You're afraid he will cheat, drink too much, talk to another girl, that something will happen to him, etc. Trust is a big part of a relationship.
BrokenTeaCup
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Dec 29, 2014
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Maybe because you feel lonely and you don't want to be alone. Maybe he makes you feel safe and when he's gone you don't feel safe anymore. Hope this helped some.
Definitelynoprincess
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Jan 7, 2016
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I used to be like that too. Until I figured out it stems from my insecurities. I was worried he'd find someone better. Keep in mind - if he's with you, he wants to be. That won't change because he's having a beer with his friends.
AmyLynn93
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Nov 10, 2015
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There could be a number of reasons for your anxiety when he leaves, but one thing is for certain... you're not alone. Many of us (men and women alike) struggle with this. Perhaps you've been betrayed in the past and worry that he'll do the same, maybe you feel lonely in general, maybe you're struggling with insecurity and fear that he'll find someone else. You should always follow your heart, but also keep in mind that our hearts can be a little overprotective sometimes, telling us to worry about things we may not need to worry about.
FallingDestiel0
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Jan 24, 2016
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You get anxious because you care! It's a normal response and perfectly healthy as long as you try to make sure paranoia doesn't get the best of you. You care about him and just want him to make it back safe without jeopardizing his life, your relationship, and everything inbetween. It's okay to get anxious.
thisismejessica
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Dec 22, 2014
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Anxiety usually is closely related to fear. Try to ask your self, what do you fear when your boyfriend goes out? Is it something rational to fear about?
ClarionCall
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Mar 16, 2016
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If your boyfriend has ever given you a reason to doubt your trust in him, then it makes sense that you'd be anxious. However, if he's trustworthy, then this anxiety probably has more to do with your own insecurities and fears. Even if you know he loves you, if you have low self esteem and feel that you're not good enough for him this can cause anxiety.
So this is something that it's important to work on. Feeling better about yourself will cause you to feel more confident in your relationship, as well. And it's important that you do this. People can usually pick up on their partners' anxiety about this sort of thing and feel pressured by it, even if their partner doesn't tell them. If your boyfriend perceives that it upsets you when he goes out with friends, he may begin to resent you for making him choose between missing out and making you feel bad.
KaitlynnNicole
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Jan 2, 2016
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A lot of girls get anxious when their boyfriends go out(especially without them) because they think their boyfriend will find someone better.
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