Why do I feel that I am rejected or neglected by people?
ShiningPanda13
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Sep 19, 2019
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Sometimes you are! Sometimes we are too young or financially dependent on people who are emotionally abusive (including rejecting and neglectful) that we tend to fall into other relationships that feel "normal" to us but recreate this dynamic. Many of us struggle to create and maintain proper boundaries because ours were never respected and protected at home. So we either do more for other people than they are expecting to return (but neither party realizes that up front) or they take advantage of our efforts without giving us the equivalent in return, be it thanks, availability for emotional or physical labor, time/advice, etc.
But also, sometimes we can habitually internalize feelings that we have that we would otherwise be afraid of sharing with those people so as not to rock the boat, and not expressing our needs, expectations or other concerns to them. This can become a reinforcing cycle because even though we intellectually know that nobody is a mindreader, we can accidentally conclude that that they "know" what we want or "mean to" hurt us when really we just haven't given them a chance to respond to any stated request.
In a related pitfall, sometimes we take it personally when people tell us "no" or just don't handle something we share with them well due to their own distractions when we felt like we really needed a "yes" or comfort and compassion. Then we read into their actions and can create a narrative that they might even be horrified to learn you thought was going on.
If you are finding this is happening to you, do what you can to communicate clearly. If the issue is your boundaries aren't being respected, then try as best as you can NOT to expect acceptance or support from that person, and reconsidering the amount of time, energy, money, etc. you are willing to trade for nothing. If you are not exactly being told "no" out of disrespect but because others are genuinely too busy with their own lives -- and finding that you want back more than others can really give -- try to consider whether you are respecting their boundaries.
Givingisagift
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Dec 28, 2019
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Do you reject and neglect yourself ? Ask yourself ! If yes, work on yourself. World is a mirror. This knowledge is THE SECRET KEY to creating all the love and admiration you want from the world !
List your strengths and areas where you want to get better! Get excited about your potential and what can do with yourself and the world. People will naturally get attracted to you. And also ask yourself ' do you reject and neglect others' ? Are you judgmental and critical? If yes, figure out ways to like and accept others. If you succeed the world has no other option but to madly fall in love with you !!!
supportiveDreamer61
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Feb 26, 2020
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You probably are a senstive person, which is not necessarily a bad thing. Perhaps you misunderstood or they misunderstood. Consequently, they could be busy. Maybe they don't realize you need them. Maybe you're overly dependent on them. Try using other coping methods. Consequently, try socializing with new people. I believe that mostly, people don't intend to harm. Maybe they need some space. How often are you trying to contact them? Why do you feel you are being rejected or neglected? Are these people necessary in your life? You could try discussing how you're feeling with them. Good luck with everything.
HappyBeach
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Mar 5, 2020
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I thick sometimes as humans we are our own worst enemies and beat ourselves up. What we think is rejection or neglect by another person is possibly just that our perception. I feel this way a lot and found that most of the time I make mountains out of mole hills. We as people have to stop being our own worst enemy and look to find our self worth. Rejection and neglect by another person can sometimes be a blessing in disguise, it helps us to know that a real friend and a true caring individual are not going to hurt or do this to us. I always tell people that what you are feeling is just that, it may just be your feeling, not that the person is actually treating us that way. Sometimes our inner self is not a positive voice but a negative and we tend to always think the worst. This is where 7 cups comes in by working on goals and working through self worth. Gratitude journaling really helps with this as well because it tends to show us that what we are feeling at one point may not be the same way we feel about a situation the next time. We have to start being a good friend to ourselves first and find our own self worth so others will see that in us as well.
Saraspurpleskies
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Mar 12, 2020
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Many people who feel rejected or neglected by others have been through some bad experiences in the past that lead them to make a false generalisation as a protection mechanism, so they will usually subconsciously behave in ways that drive people away, they'll do things such as isloate, reject invitations, and they usually never approach people and initiate things with them, this then takes the form of a toxic cycle and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy
,however, once we shine the light of awareness on this issue and realise the root cause of this cycle we can free ourselves from this feeling. consequently we no longer act in ways that feed this assumption.
Nitty18
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Mar 28, 2020
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My heart goes to whoever feels this way.It usually happens when people they themselves wont be going with good times they tend to reject or neglect people around them.A times people arent nice to others.Let other people know you need to be cared and find what they need from you.There is a possibility they do not know what they want from you.Do express yourself well and try to communicate with the person who is neglecting you and be vocal about the whole situation.
This might help you to solve the issue in long term and resolve all the issues you have.
URawesome22
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Apr 8, 2020
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Feeling rejected and neglected by people is something that everyone goes through. I feel it a lot too! What we have to know is that everyone feels that way at one point or another. Its a natural reaction and usually it has nothing to do with the person themselves. We never know what someone else may be going through, and they may be in a mood where they need to be alone and that can feel like neglect. They may also be in a mood where they want to feel better about themselves so they may be in a rejecting manner towards you. Always make sure that you consider what they may be going through and don't worry! Everyone feels this way and you are not alone!
CeceBakes16
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Apr 10, 2020
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Personally having been there for people in times of need has led me to believe that I have the will power and confidence to get through my problems. I definitely try to engage with people more and also make sure I can be with them in any way that I can. If you feel rejected or neglected by people, then you should always put it into polite words and ask them if your feelings are true or not. If you feel neglected you can additionally seek help from a listener to help you cope with these feelings. It can help to talk to friends and family about your feelings too.
OldEthan
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May 7, 2020
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Do you think that people reject or neglect you because they aren't paying enough attention to your needs or they are unable to "see" you? Are you able to ask people for care with skill? Sometimes when I am rejected it is my fault because I am not good socially (I am a high-functioning Autistic.) , and sometimes it is because I am looking for help from the wrong person or people. It is very painful to be rejected or neglected and I empathize with your issues in this area. One thing that has worked for me is to accept that others are not perfect and that many people are not going to be able to help me. This realization helps me to approach people with more success because I am much less hurt when they cannot or will not help me. You are a worthwhile person yet some people cannot see your value and needs. Keep looking for help with this and I am hopeful that you will better this lack care from others in your life.
Anonymous
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May 30, 2020
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Sometimes the real person we put out to the world draws people away, but at the same time, brings others in. Although being rejected or neglected feels painful, there's not much we can do to make every single person we come across happy. You are perfect just the way you are and the right people will realize that and embrace that with you. Sometimes it could also be the difference between maturity and immaturity, right and wrong, or attitude. The Golden Rule always says to "Treat others the way you want to be treated." Now that doesn't always mean that you have to act differently and be a different person in order to do so, but more like discovering more ways to implement those values into your life. Deep down though, it's about accepting and loving yourself for who you are that really matters.
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