Why do I feel that I am rejected or neglected by people?

feeling rejected or neglected by people is difficult because you may not understand why but everyone feels that way at one time or another. as kids we feel that way until we meet new people and that is the same as adults. either people like us or they do not but they could like some traits about us and lothe other traits. in relationships when you are around the same person they have more time to get to know you and learn why you act a certain way. but when you meet new people in a group setting, the people only know a fragment of who you are. are you judging other people negativley and therefore you think people are judging you the same way?

Sometimes I feel rejected by those around me when they brush off my problems and act like mental health is not a big deal. Emotional neglect is real, and it can occur in many different situations. I have told people I am feeling low, like I may hurt myself, etc. and they have told me to stop over reacting and to let these feelings go. Unfortunately, this makes me feel worse. Some people do not understand, and can not help, and I understand and respect that. However, these people should be able and willing to help in other ways, such as offering to help access professional help, finding another listener, etc.

It may be because you have low self esteem or you don't trust yourself. Its not other people who reject you but may be its you who reject yourself who is afraid of accepting yourself. If you accept who you are and start appreciating the person you are no one can reject you. Its you who has the power to reject yourself and not somebody who doesnt even know who you are. As far as being neglected is concerned once you make yourself your own priority people start making you their priority. So the key is start believing in yourself and the world will believe in you.

People come from different backgrounds, and everyone has a different worldview, perception, emotional intelligence and IQ. If you feel rejected or neglected it is absolutely normal, because not everyone is going to accept you as you are, and that is totally ok! If you consistently feel rejected or neglected by people, you may be assertive with the people and ask them why they are rejecting/neglecting you? It is always better to clarify your feelings with people they are associated with. It is possible that you may be misperceiving the information, based on your previous experiences. For instance, I felt I was rejected by my friends when I was in high school. It was a long time back - but I continue to assume that people generally reject me based on my High school experience when this is not really the case.

People don't always react how we would like them to. We are all different. Rejection is a hard emotion to deal with, it hurts. It's important in times when you feel this way to stay positive, think about the good qualities you have and what you have to offer a as person. It may be that the other person is going through something that you are not aware of. There could be a valid reason that they are not engaging. You could always discuss with this person the way you are feeling, it may be a hard thing to do but this may be a way to feel better about the situation.

There are a number of reasons you could feel that way. It may be helpful to consider the intention behind what made you feel that way. It could also be helpful to determine if you feel that way around specific people, or around everyone. Remember that as humans sometimes we can create expectations or standards in our minds that we (even subconsciously) may hold others to, and not necessarily communicate to them; and there can be times when that standard we’ve created isn’t met and we feel hurt. Communication is important, especially communicating your needs because they themselves are important.

I’m not sure what in your life has caused you to feel this way. I can say with some certainty however, that this is a case of a self fulfilling prophecy. What I mean by that, is that I’m sure there is no general consensus by the world to ignore and overlook you. Instead I think it’s more likely that you go into every situation believing you will be ignored. As a result you likely place yourself in the background and don’t approach people with confidence. Because you hold yourself in the background, people don’t seek you out and you feel ignored. Instead, try this. In social situations, approach people and say hi, make conversation. At the beginning, it will feel awkward, push through this. It may also help to enjoy groups based on activities you enjoy, whether that’s running, book club, whatever. This may help you move past the awkward feeling, because you’ll be having too much fun. I hope this helps. Believe me, everyone is not ignoring you. You will no doubt meet jerks who misjudge and mistreat you. Don’t waste your time on them. There are plenty of people that want to talk to you, you just need to give them the chance.

I think we find ourselves assuming what others might think of us. If, we have a low opinion of our self and when we don't find ourselves to be impressive or knowledgeable. We often think that other people must also be thinking low of us. We try to play a 'mind-reader' as Dr. Burns said in his book 'Feeling Good'We assume that people are ignoring us while that might not be the actuality of the situation. Maybe, they were busy or didn't notice us. But, we assume the worse, because of our opinion of ourselves. Now, I am not saying that one is always delusional in feeling this. But, even, in moments when we feel rejection, we shouldn't think it as the absolute declaration of being a failure. It is just a blip and one can come back right up. I hope that was of help to you.

A common cause of unwarranted feelings of rejection is taking people’s moods and behaviors personally and neglecting more likely interpretations of what could be happening. This can occur even more easily over text and email. The absence of cues such as facial expression, body language and tone of voice lead people to use their imaginations to interpret what’s going on, projecting their fears and uncertainties onto the communication. Recognizing the true meaning and intention of a communication can be obstructed by issues such as: insecurity, fear of rejection, anxiety, depression, ego centrism, and inadequate emotional/psychological/social intelligence. These issues have in common the failure to recognize other people’s perspectives or step into their shoes. Whether caused by anxiety or general difficulty understanding how our own and others’ minds might work, looking at situations from a narrow lens obscures reality and can lead to the erroneous conclusion that people are intentionally rejecting us.

Chances are (from experience) that you may be rejecting yourself. If you don't like who you are as a person (due to low self esteem) then you don't really give others a chance to like you either. I want to assure each and every one of you that you are amazing people, and if you're being yourself, you'll definitely meet people who appreciate you for who you are and you'll find your friendship group and where you fit in! Everyone has a place and sometimes it can just take time to find that. Good luck my friends, as always! Byeeee