Why do I feel like there's a need to please so many people?

It is a constant fear of insecurity about ourselves. We live to please people around us whom we care. We want their attention and do everything in that par to be with them. But heedless to say, being someone whom you are not just for the sake of getting attention or too please people, will only break your heart in the end out of countless expectations.

It's drummed into us from a very early age to be accepted but one thing I have always lived by is you might be the ripest, juicest, most beautiful peach in the bowl but there will always be that one person who doesn't like peaches and that's down to them not you!

The desire to try to make everyone happy just runs deep. Sadly so deep that one may forget to put their own happiness first. You just have to keep in mind that there is no way to please every single person in every single situation - someone will always end up unhappy no matter how hard you try. Just try not to let that someone always be you since your own happiness is the most important thing in your own life. If you are unhappy, you do not stand a chance at helping or making others happy in your life.

Feeling like a people pleaser is completely normal. Plenty of people feel like they need to be their best in front of people they know or don't know. This is completely fine and there's nothing wrong with trying to impress or please people. However this can become a problem when it becomes more severe to the point where you are altering your personality and who you are as a person in order to please or make other people proud of you. This can also become extremely overwhelming when you start to change for every person you meet and can start to feel like you need to change all the time or you feel like you're having an identity crisis.

It is good to want to help others out, but you need to make sure that you are caring for yourself first before trying to help others. You need to understand that your value doesn’t come from how others see you, but you value is determined only by yourself. If you are trying to please others because you want to help them that’s perfectly fine. But if you are only pleasing others so that they will like you, remember that you are important and you have value and do not need to please others to be valued or respected.