Why do I always think my girlfriend is cheating?
Minikin
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Jun 10, 2021
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Depends on the situation: does she give you reasons to feel this way? If yes, then it's normal to doubt her, and you absolutely should. If not, then you might be dealing with trust issues. This usually stems from the inside - your own subconscious feelings about yourself may project themselves onto your girlfriend. As such, they plant doubt in your mind where there probably shouldn't be any. It's not that you necessarily don't trust her, but more so this relates to (most likely) your own self-esteem, or your own sense of guilt for something that happened (it doesn't have to be cheating). Regardless, for one reason or another, if you're actively searching for things to ping on her, the relationship might suffer, and you might come to regret this later on. Ask yourself if you have any evidence (even if it's "just a hunch") that she's cheating, and if you don't have any but the feeling persists, it's okay to let her know how you feel - so that she can help you deal with this.
Anonymous
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Sep 10, 2021
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It’s completely normal to feel that way remeber to just trust your gut and be truthful to yourself be 100% sure. Make sure you come first. If your girlfriend had been acting suspicious it could be because of anything, you know what’s best for you so do what YOU think is best. Remember you come first, if you’re not happy with how your girlfriend makes you feel confront her or find resources we are just listeners that don’t know your full life story so know what’s best for you. Make sure you find a great solution and trust your gut.
Anonymous
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Sep 29, 2021
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sometimes we cannot shake these feelings and it can be insecurity we have. This could come from a previous relationship or just the type of person we are. I would suggest you speak openly with your partner about this and you might find you feel a whole lot better about it. This can be hard to suffer with alone and you do not need to suffer alone. If your partner is understanding and cares for you then it should not matter if you have these feelings. They should be listened to and understood. Please try reaching out to her, and if you struggle to talk then write everything down.
Anonymous
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Nov 3, 2021
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Sometimes this can be a manifestation of insecurities that one has in oneself. If we believe that we aren't worthy of love or of commitment from our partner, I feel like it would be easy to assume they would be cheating because we honestly believe that they can't love us enough not to stray. I also think that this could be projection. If we have impure thoughts about others that may be considered cheating (depending on the relationship) or if we are actually cheating on our partner, then I think it would be easier to believe they are also cheating. If we would do it, why wouldn't they?
Anonymous
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Mar 9, 2022
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Lack of trust usually makes one think like that. The trust factor is either missing here or it's been broken by the opposite party. In either case, you both should work it by talking, understanding and communicating your thoughts and feelings genuinely to your girlfriend. Listen to her thoughts and feelings very sincerely, don't fidget, look into her eyes Then make a list of restaurants or places you both can visit and explore. By this you can slowly build that trust in your relationship. It's all in the matter of going that extra mile for your partner 🙂
Anonymous
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Apr 16, 2022
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Are you cheating? Do you have thoughts of cheating? Sometimes we worry others are cheating because we find ourselves insecure about whether we would do the same. Alternatively, have you experienced a relationship in the past where someone cheated on you? Maybe that could be fueling those thoughts. If so, consider having an honest, direct conversation with the girlfriend about that real insecurity; see if as a growing experience to try to get some support and become closer together. Wherever that feeling is coming from, consider setting concrete boundaries about what expectations you have in the relationship; make sure the other person knows where you stand (and vice versa as well).
ColorMeHopeful
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May 25, 2022
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Hi. I know how difficult it can be to feel like someone you care about is being unfaithful. This could possibly be linked to your past relationships and the fear of what possibly occurred happening again. It could also be that you use different communication styles. It’s best to talk with your partner about what you are feeling. Take some time to get a better understanding of each other and discuss ways that could bring you reassurance in your relationship. For instance, messaging each other to check in throughout the day. Relationships are hard work, but with love, communication and understanding, you will be able to build the trust you need to grow in your relationship. Wishing you the best!
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