Why do I always think my girlfriend is cheating?

Thinking or accusing someone of cheat is usually a sign or symptom of insecurity. Sometimes the other person has helped to create that insecurity by being dishonesty in the past and trust is broken and therefore insecurity sets in. Other time the other person is completely trust worthy but our own insecurities about ourself and our lack of self esteem can great a irrational fear or obsession that the other person boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating or doing something behind our backs. Often it is more likely a symptom that your needs are not being emotionally meet in the relationship and you are looking for more understanding and support from The other person

It is normal to believe your mind and intuition in certain situations. Establishing trust is a key factor in ensuring fidelity in relationships. Communicating your feelings to your partner is very important to build loyalty among one another. Be sure to recognize your emotions, and inform your partner on how you are feeling. There are certain measures you can take to build trust with each other, and be sure to consider having genuine conversations about your feelings with one another. Make sure your partner knows how you are feeling, and remember that establishing trust with one another is a major factor in having a healthy relationship.

There may be some unresolved trauma in your past and you cannot find trust in yourself or her. Speaking to her may resolve you of all fears. You may have an insecure attachment with her and may need to go to a therapist or couples counseling to further see what the problem may be. A person or event in your life may have betrayed you, and you therefore feel impending doom or anxiety that that might be the case. However, anxiety is also a defense mechanism. It may be that she may be cheating on you, but the best course of action is to establish trust with her and see what the problem is.

Trust is something that is hard to hold onto if you have been hurt before. Have you openly shared these thoughts with her? I have found that voicing my thoughts and then working on shedding light on them helps the healing process. Insecurities show us many things about ourselves. Possible we long to have stability, and we have fears of things going wrong. Maybe we have been untrustworthy ourselves so we find it hard to trust others? Or possibly you have witnessed a relationship end due to infidelity? Talking about our thoughts and diving into them is part of working through negative loops that keep you feeling stuck.

That's clearly a trust issue, that could be due to a number of different reasons. It could be because of a past betrayal that left you scarred. It could also be associated to a communication problem that makes it difficult for you to express your feelings of jelousness, thus making them pile up inside of you without getting clousure. Another probable cause is that you feel inferior to other guys because of self-esteem issues: you don't see your real value and so think the could be more attractive or better boyfriend than them. In conclusion, the reasons could be multiple, and there are probably more than those I mentioned. I hope you can get the help you need, either here in 7cups or with therapy elsewhere. Hope you can get over this problem soon and get better at enjoying your relationship.

There's two main reasons I can think of as to why you would feel like this. 1. You are insecure within yourself and/or your relationship. You may doubt yourself in terms of appearance or how you are within your relationship. You may be facing feelings of not being good enough for your partner. These are quote common feelings people experience within relationships. 2. You are dating someone who has previously been unfaithful, either within your relationship or a past one they've had. This would be a very rational feeling to have in this situation, as people often struggle to change their negative or bad behavior. If she has cheated in the past, she may be tempted to do it again.

It could be because you are not sure of what is happening when she isn't around you, maybe you have been hurt before. What could be the reason for your worry? Has she exhibited behaviors that you consider not trustworthy? Perhaps you both aren't entirely transparent with one another, maybe that is something to as each other about. Have you tried talking to her about this? Maybe you could try speaking and voicing your concerns in a more kind manner, could it be a "her" problem or a "you" problem? Communication is the basal rock, the core of any relationship!

This may have to do with a past experience that you have encountered in a previous romantic relationship. If you've been hurt before due to the dishonesty of your partner, then you're likely scared that it's going to happen again. Another reason may be that you aren't extremely confident in your partner's feelings for you. Do you feel appreciated by your partner? Your suspicions could be stemming from a concern that your partner is searching for satisfaction outside of the relationship. If this is the case, then communicating with your partner could really help calm your nerves regarding her loyalty to you.

I think sometimes we sabotage the good because we don't feel worthy of love. Other times we suspect and we jump to the worst conclusion. I'd sit down and think about the cause and honestly answer. Sometimes we know the answer but we hate admitting it but admitting will allow us to move on and deal with the core issue rather than deflecting and making someone else the reason for our sadness/issues/upset etc. That is what I'd suggest but I might be completely off the mark. All that being said, it is worth an honest conversation with your girlfriend on why you feel this way

Part of it could simply be because you're insecure in your relationship with your girlfriend. I used to have the same problem as you, and I realized that in many ways my fear of my girlfriend cheating on me was the result of my own insecurities and inability to trust her in whatever she was doing. This could be due to a myriad of factors-- from ones that may seem reasonable like her acting suspiciously to ones that are simply the product of lacking faith in your partner, which can include hanging out with friends or not talking all the time. Try to take some time to reflect: why are you afraid of your girlfriend cheating all the time? Has something like this occurred in your past? Do you find it hard for you to trust in other people or are you insecure in your standing with her?