Why do I always think my girlfriend is cheating?

Good question. I think only you have the answer to that. Do you trust your girlfriend with others? Has your trust been betrayed in the past before by someone (could also be platonically)? If so it could be that you have trust issues because or previous experiences. I think the solution to trust issues is actually letting go of the control over the other person—the truth is that some people will betray you and some will cheat on you. Not everyone but again, that's *their* choice and there's nothing anyone can do about it. But it's a f/ucking terrifying thought to think that some people will betray you and break your trust. Especially if that person is close to you or means a lot to you. At the end of the day—you have to accept that sometimes people will hurt you and screw you. Even so, that doesn't necessarily mean you have to build your walls higher to ensure you don't get hurt because eventually you'll be alone then. So what is it then? Acceptance—and if you can't accept it, you have to accept that part. You'd have to accept very little things and then go bigger. You'd have to open yourself up to hurt—but still keep boundaries to protect yourself.

Love can make you feel vulnerable. Sometimes that vulnerability expresses itself in the form of fears that the object of love secretly engaging in some kind of betrayal. I had this experience in the early days of one of my long-term relationships. I found it very difficult to believe that she could love me. So, if she did not come home when expected I would get very anxious. Or if she seemed to be too friendly with another male I would feel jealousy. Building trust takes time and honest openness. So tell your girlfriend in a calm non-confrontational manner how you feel. You can then discuss together what kinds of things you could do to build that trust with each other. It may very well be that she sometimes feels the same way about you. It is definitely possible to work through this. I hope this helps.

This can be the effect of many different factors, including overthinking, past experiences, unbalanced emotions, and red flags. Have you had past girlfriend(s) that cheated on you? Do you tend to think a little too much on one detail you noticed? Has your girlfriend shown red flags that caused you to suspect her, including suspicious text messages to other people (that seems a little more than just a friendly conversation)? Thinking this way is quite normal, especially when you are new to romantic relationships. Try talking to her about your concerns, and still be cautious. There is a chance that things are not what they seem :)

These thoughts tend to come from an anxious place, have you been cheated on in the past? Try to think about what has happened in the past to make you have these thoughts. Trust issues can come from childhood, from previous relationships, or from your current circumstances. Also think about anything your girlfriend is doing to make you think she might be cheating? Is she hiding something, or are these thoughts fabricated in your mind? Communication is one of the best tools to overcome these situations. How can you build trust between you and your girlfriend? How can you communicate about these things whilst maintaining respect and openness?

What experiences or feelings has lead to this concern? It's important to start from the beginning and to gather up the facts. Has she been spending less time with you lately? Are her moods off and on, one moment she seems connected to you and the next she doesn't? Does she disappear at random times and go quiet for hours? Now, you don't need to know every second of the day what your partner is doing. What I'm saying is, it could be helpful to reflect on whether this is normal behaviour for your girlfriend or if she's recently been doing this. I know sitting down and talking about it can be difficult, as some accusations can be thrown around and you could get into an argument. But to sit down, pour one another a drink (or a hot chocolate), play some calm music in the background and just build on that neutral atmosphere. You're not here to argue, but to seek answers and understand one another more. It could even help if you prompt a discussion based on what both of you want out of the relationship, if any of your needs are or aren't being met, and to check in emotionally with one another. Maybe even ask where you see yourself in the future and to be genuinely honest with one another. Show no hatred or judgement, because you are having a open and honest conversation, not an arguement. Now if things do open up and she expresses that she has cheated, then you ask why she did this instead of talking about it with you. Ask why she had to pursue another guy, while in this relationship. If she has lost feelings for you, the fact she has cheated in the first place indicates that she is not the girl you thought she was. You can't put your trust and love into someone, who would do this behind your back. So this should help you move on, by replacing the fantasy with the reality. If it's because of anything she is remorseful over, both of you must come to a compromise. She needs to be willing to change her ways and regain your trust. Don't shut her out, but work alongside her. Make sure she has cut contact with that person. She has to show you that she's cut contact, as if she wants you in her life, she can't do this anymore. Then from there, slowly move forwards. I hope some of this helps.

Sometimes we have anxiety in a relationship, and that anxiety likes to tell us something is wrong even when its not. Its important to remember this and work through a checklist in your mind: Is she acting odd? Does she seem to be lying? What evidence do I have that she cheating? etc. Another thing that is important is to communicate. Communication is important in every relationship. If she's not communicating well, then let her. And finally, unfortunately humans are humans, so some people will of course cheat. If you've noticed any odd behavior, talk with your friends. Don't straight up break up with her unless you are absolutely positive that she is cheating on you. Good luck!

Insecurities like such often stem from personal experiences either embedded long ago in childhood or due to previous relationships. Sometimes you would be experiencing these paranoias due to the previous relationship that werent healthy and your doubts had proven right later. Moreover, if you constantly follow or lookup to specific social media niche you can get insecurities that would affect the way you view your partner. The best solution is to talk to your partner and tell them how you have been feeling. Its best to tackle these insecurities at an early stage rather than hiding or ignoring them as a part of relationship. Remember communication and understanding is the key to healthy relationships.

It might be worth analysing what it is that makes you feel that way, and if you've confronted her about it, what it is that makes you believe she would be lying to you. Relationships are built on trust, and if she says she isn't cheating, you kind of have to take her word for it. If that level of trust just doesn't exist in the relationship, then maybe it's not meant to be, tough as that might be to admit. If you let your worry lie and end up at the point where you are analysing her every move and trying to catch her cheating, you won't enjoy the relationship anymore, and it'll definitely cease to be a healthy relationship if you don't trust her at all, and she feels like you're trying to catch her out.

I had the same intuition for a really long period. I spoke to my partner and through communication I realised that I could trust them. Hence, I reflected on myself: was I confident enough with me? After an amazing journey to my worries and concerns I found that the problem was related to my self-esteem. Using disclosure I told my partner and other beloved ones which were the things that they found make of me a good person. I focused on them and then, when I felt strong enough, I began working on traits I want to improve. I am still on my way but the journey till self-love is amazing and very ful-filling!

It depends on what could be making you think that. Has she showed signs of cheating or is it just you thinking that she is? It could also be your intuition trying to tell you. Some mistake it for overthinking. In the past I had someone who cheated on me and I kept thinking that they were cheating until one day they had confirmed they had been cheating. If you’re thinking that she is then I suggest you talk to her about it and get some reassurance. Sometimes, it ca be nothing. I really hope it was of help.