Why do I always think my girlfriend is cheating?

I constantly thought my boyfriend was cheating because I was so scared if I didn't have my guard up and he DID in fact cheat, I'd be a fool. I had given him my whole heart, and was too insecure to picture him actually loving me- for who I am, with all my flaws. My insecurities really took a toll on our relationship, and I found that me thinking he was cheating was a lot less about him and a lot more about me.

It might be worth analysing what it is that makes you feel that way, and if you've confronted her about it, what it is that makes you believe she would be lying to you. Relationships are built on trust, and if she says she isn't cheating, you kind of have to take her word for it. If that level of trust just doesn't exist in the relationship, then maybe it's not meant to be, tough as that might be to admit. If you let your worry lie and end up at the point where you are analysing her every move and trying to catch her cheating, you won't enjoy the relationship anymore, and it'll definitely cease to be a healthy relationship if you don't trust her at all, and she feels like you're trying to catch her out.

It's not an uncommon thing but this can be toxic to a relationship. When you really love someone there is an underlying fear of losing them and one of the worse types of losing them, is losing them to someone else. First ask yourself why you feel this way? Often it is fear driving it with no proof beyond imaged proof. Avoid the trap of imagining hypothetical scenarios based on non-existent proof and trying talking to your partner. Explain to them that you realise these feelings are based only on emotional fears and you are not accusing them of anything. Talking and finding ways to move past this together can make your relationship stronger. My own partner took this approach with me and we walked about every little thing that triggered these thoughts. This allowed me to look at the situation from her perspective and I could see that sometimes my behaviour would indeed be worrying to her and I was able to correct myself. This greatly strengthened our relationship. Again, it is important to ensure them that you are not accusing them though, as this can lead to defensive behaviour which is not a good situation for a discussion and to work through things.

Underlying trust issues, paranoia due to it happening to you once or if she has previously cheated, you may be always on the lookout for if she is doing again.

Because you feel afraid that she has no reason to stay with you and she can easily find someone else better.

It depends. If she has cheated on you before then this would make anyone a little more cautious. Also, if you have been cheated on before, have had friends who've been cheated on, or even parents who divorced or cheated can all make you much more suspicious. A lot of the times jealousy and a lack of trust has nothing to do with the other person, but yourself. You may be feeling insecure, and that's okay. We all feel insecure sometimes, including myself. But it's important that instead of accusing her of cheating that you explain to her that you are just feeling worried, and that you're not sure why. You may just have trust issues and hopefully she will try to help you through them and understand. Make sure you don't start off saying "I think you're cheating on me. I don't trust you." Or things like that. It will only lead to her going into defense mode and chances are it will start a fight, only making you even more paranoid. Tell her "I don't really know, but I always feel worried that you might cheat on me, or are. It's nothing you did, and I honestly don't know why I'm feeling so paranoid. I know you wouldn't, but I still feel worried. Can we please talk about this?" Hopefully she will try to understand. Everyone gets jealous or suspicious time and again. It's perfectly normal. It just depends on what you do with it. DO NOT invade her privacy or try to "investigate" or "Ask around" You need to TALK to her. If she tells you that you have nothing to worry about and she gives you no reason not to believe her then you need to try to trust her. Even if you still worry from time to time, it will absolutely tare the relationship apart if you start sneaking around and don't trust her. She'll grow farther and farther away if she thinks you don't believe her, and it will simply result in her not wanting to share with you in general, and maybe she will become suspisious that you are keeping something from her and are feeling guilty. Just talk to her, calmly, don't accuse her. Let her know that youre asking her because you want to hear the truth from her and not someone else. Just say. "I don't really think you do, but if you are keeping something from me just please talk to me about it."

It could be possible that you have low self esteem. knowing your self worth will help you feel good about yourself and know that you have value

Being in a relationship can be difficult. Constant anxiety made me think - is he loyal to me? How do I know he's not seeing someone else? When you care about or love someone, you get jealous and start thinking about the worst possible outcomes. That's completely normal! There is usually no need to worry at all, but if you feel that your girlfriend has been showing clear signs of cheating, such as being very secretive or avoiding you try to calmly talk to her about it. I wish you all the best :))

Personally, I think it's because you don't trust her enough. This could be because you've been hurt before or because she gives you reason to think she's cheating.