Why do I always have to have perfection. Why I am I afraid of what everyone thinks about me

It could be that you were put down a lot and stripped of value by others at an earlier age, thus leaving you with a need to constantly proove yourself as worthy, as you to yourself do not hold much value, because of the lack of self.

Because you're insecure, visit a phsyco, it will help! Find the love you have for yourself, believe in yourself

Because you are normal, this is why you care. At some point you will grow tired and angry of it and hit the ""I feel no pain anymore"" button, or simply get used to it.

In short, social media. Every time you go online you are inundated with perfection. The youtube who made a gourmet meal with no spills, no mistakes. The friend who has the perfect relationship and plasters it all over her Facebook. When I began blogging I learned a secret that we all KNOW we just don't see. No one publishes the blooper reels. When people are down or making mistakes you wont see many posts about it. Often times posts that relay negative feelings are scrolled past, ignored, or mocked. Dear reader your best is ENOUGH! Showing up and being the best you is beyond perfect. Be human, be messy, and live authentically!

Essentially, we need others to validate our existence. We are social beings. We all want to be loved, but some of us take this idea to the extreme and feel that it is necessary to be absolutely perfect in order to get that love. Usually, from my experiences with perfectionists, including myself, this behavior stems from how we were raised. Maybe there were people in our childhood who we could not get enough attention from so we compensated by trying extra hard to be what we perceived they would like in order to get their love - being perfect, we thought, would get their love... of course there are a multitude of reasons, this is just one possibility. This problem can be overcome. In my opinion, it takes looking back at that history, understanding why you might be overcompensating using perfectionism and then changing the behaviors.

It's sometimes our strive and ambition that makes us dream of 'being perfect.' Everyone wants to make it on the top, stand on the Hall of Fame, make it big you know. Be better than yourself. However, in my opinion, I don't know what perfection means. I just think it's good to stay true to myself. Have a good day! Affable

It's a common thing for everyone to worry about being perfect, but we all have to have the epiphany of seeing that everyone is "imperfect" compared to our perfect standards, so in actuality, we are all perfect in our own perfect ways.

Because that's human nature! We worry about what others think because having friends and a love life is seen as being socially successful and what everyone should strive for, and like many, we're afraid of failure. We're afraid that we'll end up not being accepted, or we're worried about being shunned or alone because we don't live up to the "standards" set by society. In sort, we worry because we are human!

We as humans have a natural tendency to care more what other people think of us that what we even think of ourselves. More so, America, not to sure what country you are from, as I am from America, I notice we as a country are especially crucial on perfection, especially of looks.

You sound like you have pretty high standards for yourself. Maybe you think that others have those for you, too, and that they'll reject you if you don't meet them. Everyone, like you, has things they're good at naturally, and others they work harder on. Doesn't mean they're not "perfect enough" or judging you. We're all built imperfectly and that can allow us to be open-minded towards each other.