Why do I always have that constant fear of being judged by the way I look or act or even speak?

Because you are giving away your power to others and looking for self esteem from an external locus of evaluation. Work on self love and self respect and things will improve

Being Less Judgemental Frees You From Being Judged Every time you judge someone else you perpetuate the cycle of judgement. Consider the example above. If you judge someone’s clothing, you’re going to expect others to be judging your clothing as well. The best way to show how true this is, is for me to ask you if you commonly judge the state of someone’s metatarsal flexibility in their foot. I’m going to assume that you don’t. Now ask yourself if you’ve ever been afraid of the state of your metatarsal flexibility being judged. No? If we went and asked a ballerina if they commonly judge metatarsal flexibility in their peers, they’d probably say yes. Having a flexible foot is part of having good feet for ballet. It’s something they judge on their peers and, in turn, will fear judgement on. You’re only afraid of being judged on the things you find yourself judging others on. The less you judge others, the less you’ll expect to be judged by others and the freer you’ll feel. The Difference Between Moral Judgement and Character Judgement The principles above apply to all kinds of judgement. They apply to judging someone’s cultural beliefs and ‘norms’ as well as judging someone’s morality and ethical behavior. While abstaining judging someone’s personal character can lead you peace, abstaining from making judgements on morals is irresponsible and cowardly. You are no such coward. You allow people the freedom to be individuals, but you don’t allow people the freedom to do what they want regardless of the consequences to other’s. It’s within your right (and obligation), to judge stealing as wrong. If you wanted to feel better about stealing yourself, you could refrain from judging, but that doesn’t make your actions any less wrong as well. Replace Judgement With Curiosity So if you’re going to stop judging people, what are you going to do when you see something out of the ordinary? Do you block the thought? Hit yourself in the face so you can’t think about it? Walk away calmly but quickly? The best way to eliminate a habit is to replace the bad habit with a better habit. I suggest replacing judgement with curiosity. The moment I started doing this, the moment I started choosing acceptance over rejection, is the moment I began to feel like I was free to be me. If you think about it, what’s normal to you is really just what’s commonplace. It’s what’s expected, predictable, boring. When you see something ‘abnormal’ or uncommon, you judge because it doesn’t fit into your view of the world. The best way to stop judging is to make it less ‘foreign’ so it can fit into your world view. The only way to do that is to learn about it, and the only way to learn is to be curious. So next time you see someone sporting a live chicken on their head for a hat, don’t stop your thought process at ‘that’s weird.’ Continue on and marvel at how strange and new that is to you. Think about how interesting the reason behind the chicken hat must be, and vow to find out what kind of cultural norm this is. Learn about it, be curious, carve a space out in your world for this new information. Give space to other’s to be who they are, and you will receive ample space in return.

The need to be accepted is a natural human instinct. Such need can cause anxiety, fear, pressure, and even depression in any individual. So, the fear of being judged by the way one looks, acts, or speaks is a normal one. However, with time one learns to see the meaning behind such need and the significance of wanting to be accepted. Truth is, with the passing of the years, one grows to appreciate quality over quantity. In doing so, we progressively learn to appreciate those few individuals that add more value to their lives rather than just take up space and time. Friendships become more selective and the group of people we care about grows smaller the older we get. We may have many acquaintances, people we know, and people we come into contact on a daily basis, but the people who really matter to us usually become a selected few. When such thing happens, you realize that you do not need to impress anyone and that those who you have accepted in your life as priority already love you for who you naturally are. As a result, you become more comfortable in your own skin and you eventually learn to love and accept yourself just as much those selected few in your life. In addition, with such core of support, you become more accepting of letting people who take up space and time in your life, go. You learn to develop self-value in realizing that you deserve to be surrounded by quality and by people who will accept you by the way you naturally look, act, or speak. In conclusion, it is normal to feel fear towards rejection as well as judgment.... The good news? It most likely will pass. However, if with time you realize that such fear does not dissipate, try to analyze the root of your fear towards rejection. To some, such analysis may require the help of a trusted individual or the help of a qualified professional. Regardless of who you approach, I encourage you to always pursue your happiness and mental stability. After all, you have the same right to be happy as those who you fear may judge you for the way you look, act, or speak. Just know that regardless of your situation, you can always find people who can listen to you and will not judge you here at 7 Cups of Tea. We are here for you and we embrace your uniquely natural internal and external beauty!

I think it's because you have anxiety about people looking down on you for the way you are. This isn't irrational, lots of people have this fear. It's important to know that many of your peers have the same problems and fears.

A wise person once told me that you are your own worst critic. No one is ever going to judge you as much as you will yourself.

It's natural to feel a little self conscious sometimes.. But what you need to realise is your biggest critic is yourself! Nobody judges you as harshly as you do.

I personnaly think its a mechanism of not knowing the intentions of others, in fear they could harm you psychologically. So we are shy and we behave in a restraint manner

I have the same feeling. Everyone dresses the same, acts the same, and talks the same. I don't like it and everyone get's "mad" at me. I have learned that who cares if it matches. Yolo (You only live once.)

Maybe you've had it happen before? Maybe you're just afraid you're not good enough? But you're good enough, and being confident will help the fear go down a lot.