Why do I always fail even when I try my hardest?

Our brains have a habit of only focusing on the negative and the things we fail as we tend to overthink them. If failing at one thing is getting you down, write a list of achievements and things you do well, no matter how small!! Also remember to never give up, we all fail sometimes and its more than likely you don't fail ALL the time, your mind is just focusing on the negative.

trying your best is enough...theres nothing more you can do..why you fail is not because you are not trying hard enough, its because maybe you are not good at what you are trying to succeed

because there are always the people that could do better than me, always. and i could never do as good as them.

It's not that you fail or you're not trying hard enough. It's just how some situations and people around us are. You focus on you, work harder. Fall seven times, wake up eight.

I think that as Humans we tend to have a preset idea in our minds of how we want a certain situation to turn out. So when things do go wrong or are not exactly as we have planned we punish ourselves. Even though we have pushed our selves to the limit. We need to take a step back look at what we have achieved and say ' You know what? I did my best and if my best wasn't good enough this time at least I tried!'

Trying to do your best doesn't mean it cannot go wrong. Failures are inevitable in life. However, what matters is whether do we choose to get back on our feet after every time we fall. Another thing that matters is what do we learn from it, so that we don't fall because of the same mistakes we had made.

You only fail when you stop trying. Continue in your quest to do things right .. just be humble.. as a teacher may draw a number.. one person may see a six .. the opposite person will see a nine. Both are not wrong so have not failed . It's the perspective of failure . Everyone sees different

There could be so many ways to look at this. But first, I want to say that it's fantastic that you’ve tried so hard, effort in itself is commendable, and it’s an incredibly valuable trait and skill that many struggle with. Good job and you’ve done well on that aspect:) don’t ever let go of that spirit! One reason could be high expectations we set ourselves, perhaps from external pressures, or simply because we don’t see (or willingly ignore) the many many times other people “fail”. I myself struggled with this for ages—I didn’t realise that I took the quote “do it once, do it right” quite literally (not that I actually did that, but that became an expectation) until a teacher pointed out that I was a perfectionist years ago. And despite that, old habit dies hard, it’s still frustrating when I feel like I couldn’t meet the standard I set for myself (standards that actually require tons of practice to meet) every time even when I put in 110% effort. And sometimes, even the “reasonable” standards others set for me. Because well, everyone has their own paths to walk, and my weakness might just be everyone else’s strength. What helps, is realising that it’s unreasonable to expect “success” every time we engage with a task. “Success” generally requires: 1. a good understanding of the task (e.g. knowing what’s the scope of an exam/what a company wants in an applicant) 2. the right strategy (e.g. a study method that works for you; having a well-crafted resume/prepared for possible interview questions) 3. Practice + effort over time! And most importantly, understanding that each “failure” is not a failure, but a step closer to our goals. Because we can learn something from EVERY experience. This is not me simply saying “to “look on the bright side of things”, but really, every experience is valuable even if it’s not what we wanted/expected. I personally learnt more about my career preference after a long summer internship that “failed” because I was miserable all the time—I now have 1 more thing to look out for the next application round; I learned about weaknesses in my understanding of a subject after (literally) failing its exam many times—I then gave more time to that subject and made sure to consult my teachers; I learned about the extent and power of my resilience after “failing” on so many levels battling with mental health—I’m now more ready for the next fight if it happens again. You see where I’m going with this?:) So don’t be so hard on yourself, you are actually making small progresses. Small, but not insignificant. A word of caution is that learning these doesn’t mean you’ll “succeed” the very next time (remember time+practice?), but it’ll definitely take you closer to unleashing your full potential, and your ultimate goal! Lastly, I’m not sure under what context you asked this question, but please remember that not achieving something doesn’t define you as a person. These are simply trips/falls/barriers in the long journey ahead! I’ll stop here bcos it’s a wall of text already:p but all the best!! xxoo, Amber

You focus too much on being successful, that you don't focus on what you are actually doing, so in the end you fail

you may be trying hard in the wrong areas. or looking at the wrong successes. instead of looking at what you didn't do, look at what you gained form an experience.