Why do I always fail even when I try my hardest?

Failure can always be difficult to deal with, no matter how you look at it. We all want to be successful, and some of us deal with very real perfectionist complexes which can make failure seem all the more harsh. Even when we try, we sometimes will fail, simply because we are not perfect. Not a single one of us is. Sometimes it may feel like success is far away, but the best thing that we are able to do is to review our mistakes and try to learn from them so that we know what we should do in the future!

Definition of failure is designed by us. Not achieving the purpose I started with may not be failure ( though for most of us it is). Our experience always teaches us something and the take-away is again individual specific. When I try my hardest, I am likely to gain the satisfaction of giving my best. If I compare my current performance with my previous one, I might be in a better position to improve myself. Though social comparison might have helped us from evolutionary perspective to save our species, the context might have changed for us to stick to the old rules.

Sometimes I fail even when I put my hardest efforts into achieving a certain goal. Usually I pinned this on my own failure as a person and not being good enough, but have grown as a person to understand that sometimes the path I chose was not the path I was meant to follow. That achieving that specific goal was not meant to be, that outside unplanned and uncontrollable aspects stood in my way. I also understand that failure is a learning curve and that it must be used to better myself. Once you have failed you should see where the failure rooted from, learn from it and try again.

Failing is part of learning. It is when you fail, that is when you learn what you need to improve on. Instead of perceiving failure as an obstacle, see it as an experience to grow from. Once you figure out why or how you keep failing, you can then take what you learn to improve your performance. Success is not suppose to be easy. Success is a challenge. If someone doesn't fail first before succeeding, then they would never really learn. I think personally, failing is part of the learning experience. Not only does it improve your action to the goal, but it makes one more humble.

When you try your hardest, you expect the most perfect outcome possible. You have envisioned what you want, and anything that doesn't measure up to that seems unsatisfactory. You set the highest expectations for yourself when you try your hardest, which makes it more likely for you to feel as though you failed. Trying your hardest also makes you focus and think too much about little tasks that you usually do without thinking. You put so much more pressure on yourself, resulting in extra stress that can make it harder for you to be successful in your the task at hand.

Maybe your definition of "fail" is too harsh! Try to give yourself a break, as overworking yourself can cause just as many mistakes as being an inattentive worker. Trying your hardest should be a success all by itself. Try looking differently at the word "fail". How do you describe it? Do you define it based on what you think others may see as failure, or do you define it based on how you feel after the fact, or how much effort you put in? I think it is important to consider your own thoughts and feelings, and define "failure" and "success" in your own terms, without worrying what other people think.

Sometimes failure is a relative term. I don't like to see things as failure or success. I prefer to look at if I learned something or not, If I made an impact or not. Did you do something more than before you started? Then you didn't actually fail. Did you learn what to do better next time or not to do next time? Then you didn't fail. Failure is just a frame of perspective. Maybe you didn't make the entire giant leap you were hoping for in one go. But small steps in the right direction are still success. You read a book one word at at time not a chapter all at once. Life is the same way.

Great question. So what makes you think that you have failed? I think that you are brave for trying your hardest. And it is never a fail in my book if you learned something from whatever you think you failed at that will help you to do better the next time around. Keep up your spirits and eventually you will accomplish what you are wanting to. I also think it is helpful to remember we all have setbacks no matter how hard we try. It is so important not to become discouraged or to let those setbacks stop us from continuing to move forward. Just keep trying until you accomplish your goal. Don’t give up. With enough time, patience and perseverance you will prevail

Perhaps you are setting your standards to high? sometimes we need to think about the things that we are doing in the present in our lives and see our achievements there and set ourselves achievable goals and learn from experience, but we must never give up and not beat ourselves up about such things. We must be kind to ourselves and look for other ways to succeed, and maybe think about things that we have succeeded in in the past and work from them. Happiness can be found in the simplest of things. Try to take a step back and find something to distract yourself, like going for a walk or watching a nice movie on the tv, or going clothes shopping or something like that.

Maybe your failure isn't the failure you think it is. When I fall, which is all the time, I always blame myself. I feel like I become self defeating in the process. I'm usually not the one who is at fault for my issues, but it is so easy to see myself as the problem. I feel like when we beat up on ourselves, we become our own worst critics and tend to be more prone to not being able to carry out the tasks that we were aiming for to improve ourselves in this crazy world. Give yourself some patience.