Why can't I just live life as worry free as everyone else? Why does it have to ruin my life?

First, we need to get the idea out of our minds that others live worry free. All of us are humans. We have feelings. And there will inevitably some times, where things don't turn out as expected. This happens to all people, not to an exclusive set. We need to realize that what we see and hear about others is not the entire truth. It can be false, it can be partially true and partially false or it might be missing some crucial aspects. We don't know. Only that person knows what they are going through. We tend to see only the beautiful and sparkling aspects of others' lives. But we often forget that they all struggle inside, due to various different reasons. We all struggle. It's just not perceivable many times.

We are all different people and we live our lives differently. It's not possible to force yourself to think differently than you do. You can work on changing your thoughts by denying your negative voice to dominate and it takes time to work through that, though it might be worth it. Worrying about things is okay at times, but if it fills your life to the point where it ruins things for you, then it's a good idea to start working on your thoughts and trying to change them a little bit at a time. So the next time you start worrying and your friends, family or your own rational inner voice tells you not to worry so much, try to tell yourself it's okay to worry, but to also take a chance and see where that takes you. Experience some things that can help confirm the notion that things aren't always as dangerous as they may seem.

Not everyone lives life worry free. Most people worry daily. You just have to find something that makes you worry less.

Don't compare yourself to others, you're perfect as you. Talk to friends and family about your worries.

My mental illness has made me feel this way. Depression takes over my brain and it makes me wonder why i cant be like the happy people out there. I have learned it can only ruin your life if you let it

Everyone worries about something. It's part of being human. It's part of life. There are resources if this worry becomes too much though.

Most people have worries. Some tend to focus more on their worries, so it gets worse. It becomes a habit, a pattern of thinking. You can change your thinking and habits with awareness and focus. It takes about 3 weeks to create a new habit.

Life is very subjective to every person. Just as I am sure that you bury your feelings and try to hide the fact that you are scared of sad in social situations, everyone around you is doing the same. No one is a professional at life and we all have our own worries. Be it social anxiety, physical health, financial stress, etc. But there are still ways to reduce anxiety, to reduce stress, and to reduce your worries. Meditation, mindfulness, speaking with a friend or family member about your worries. My personal experience is to increase your self confidence. I suffered through 2 years of anxiety where I took time off from university and could not leave my room from fear of passing out (even though this fear was completely unfounded). I now have an incredibly social 9 to 5 job that I love and am looking to jump on the property ladder. I achieved this by working on my self confidence. For me this was in the form of working out and keeping a very close eye on my fitness and health. It worked as both a distraction from my anxiety and a catalyst for my self confidence.

People everywhere have their own struggles, they might not share them with you but trust me everyone has their own hardships and pain. Strife doesn't ruin lives, your reaction to it does and you can choose to either let it get the best of you, or rise above. Easier said than done, but when times get tough lean on your loved ones and trust in your own inner strength and you will get through it.

It seems that you are feeling a little anxiety. Anxiety touches everyone at some point in their life.