Why can't I get over her or him?

Grief is a normal emotion to feel. And I personally believe that we never truly do forget about someone who was such a significant person in our life. Over time, it just gets easier to deal with. However, we all get to that stage at different paces.

You probably can't get over the individual because you've either becoming too dependent in the individual or you have hope they will change. It is not guaranteed the person will change and you should be dependent on yourself.

I know it's hard. But for your own good, you have to. You deserve better. And you probably heard it a million times, but what if you lose the love of your life for just being stubborn about a person who doesn't deserve you?

Because you love him/her. Make a list of everything good him/ her has done for you. And a list of the bad things he/her has done.

Often it is because you feel as though you are not valuable as your own person and need that person to validate yourself. It can be really hard to see that you are a valuable person on your own.

You probably feel like you really need them. This is normal. Humans after a while begin to depend on something that's been there for a while. You're basically addicted to him or her. You can get over him or her. It will just take time.

Because you loved him/her and you got attached to him/her.Also he/she was part of your daily routine and it's hard to forget about him/her.

Well, it will not happen overnight especially if you really loved him but then again it really just depends on the person. If they treated you very well it will take a few days but if they treated you bad not at all they lost.

Because you shared time with them. You shared space, thoughts, likes and dislikes, air, love, words, happiness, etc. You did things together, Probably a lot of things. You may have even connected. And once all of that ceases when you least expect it... it hurts. Because now you are left with these words, thoughts, experiences, memories, etc. of a person who supposedly no longer loves you or likes you a lot. You are absolutely alone in an unexpected time frame and so your most recent memories, which are with him/her, are what is going to be on your mind. And that connection you thought was there, lingers. And loneliness takes over and you feel lost... they were the last person that cared and the last person you loved... and all of a sudden that's all gone. They will linger for a while. A good while, but with time it will fade away because you will have new thoughts and new memories and new experiences that can replace him/her

Some people mark us...forever, for good or for bad...respect the decision of the person that leave you, respect yourself, is going to hurt, somedays you are not going to be able to get up bed but guess what??? times healls everthing...If you really love that person, send her love in your head in your thoughts, but leave that person alone...just go out with friends, just get up your bed, cry, feel the pain..everyday is going to be less belive me.