Why can't I get over her or him?

usually, when one clings to a certain relationship. it's just to hard to end it. because then, everything is filtered through a very specific lens. like how this place reminds you of memories of that person, or how happy this person made you. and your mind creates this landscape where it makes you believe that happiness can only mean having that person. the key is to remove that lens, to escape that landscape. discover the world around you, discover more about yourself. appreciate that things that make you feel the slightest pinch of joy, like a good joke, or seeing an old friend. appreciate music, art. whatever you like. make yourself happy with what's around you. try something new. simply let your heart heal. and with time, you will find love again.

There can be a number of reasons to have trouble getting over a breakup. If you really loved someone, it's only natural for it to take a while for that feeling to fade. However, we can also hold onto old attachments to an unhealthy degree. Sometimes this is a fear of not being in love with the person any more, and sometimes it's the result of a desire for some kind of closure. If you want to get over someone and can't, the only real way to do it is pretty harsh: cut them out of your life completely. Unfriend them on social media, don't let yourself be in social situations with them, and don't allow yourself to reflect on your relationship. Remove any reminders that that person exists from your life. Of course, this may not always be possible. But get as close as you can. It may be hard, but eventually you'll begin to forget about them. Remembering your relationship will only prolong your pain. After you're over someone, then it's possible to look back on the good times with a sense of appreciation while recognizing that the relationship wasn't meant to be. You may even be able to be friends if you want, once those old feelings are gone. But trying to have a friendship with someone you can't get over is only going to hurt you. Another reason why someone might have trouble getting over a relationship is if their partner was emotionally manipulative or abusive. One of the goals of abuse is to make the victim feel as though they're dependent on the abuser and that they'll never be happy without them. If you feel you've been abused, please seek professional help.

Maybe because you love him/her a lot. He/she is in your heart, so greatly that you just can't. It means you care a lot!

The day you stop asking yourself why you can't get over him/her, will you follow the road towards moving on.

You've trained yourself to depend on them. If you really still have feelings for them, try discussing it with them, but don't lie to yourself.

Sometimes the feelings are too strong, sometimes we are too week to get over the relationship, but that's normal thing. After a while, we become aware of ourselfes, our situations and time heals all wounds...

because you still have feelings for that person and you could forget about them and maybe so many other reasons.

Sometimes, you just have attraction for someone. If you really cared for someone but they didn't feel the same for you, you're going to be confused to why you care so much.

Forgive me for being blunt... it's probably not about her or him, it's probably about some emotional issue within you, or some past hurtful incidence that hasn't yet healed. Speak with a counsellor or therapist: some embarassment or pain now will save you years of hurt, confusion, and repeating this over and over again.

Because you are not accepting that things are the way that they are. You wish to turn back the clock and experience the fun and happiness that you once had with him. And now all of that is gone.